|
very confused
So recently i've been upset over a guy who basically just wanted to use me for sex and we had a good friendship for a while and it died out and i wrote him a long letter telling how i felt and he didn't even respond and we basically stopped talking.I met someone new the other night on new years and we got a long good and we've been talking and he's been texting me and he is for sure interested in me.I'm slightly interested as well and he is getting my mind off of the other guy.For some reason,whenever a guy i just met shows interest in me,i always get a weird feeling.It's like a feeling that I get every time a guy gives me attention and likes me and it makes me like them less.I guess I like a hard to get guy.But I know myself and that if i were to stop talking to him,I'd like him again and he would probably end up getting over me and i'd be the one getting hurt. Don't get me wrong,I DO like him a little bit but I hate this feeling I get .Maybe it's just because he's a new guy and im still getting to know him. But i don't know what to do! help!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
That feeling you get isn't because you like the "hard to get" guys... that feeling is you telling yourself you don't deserve a "nice" guy and the guys that use you and then treat you like dirt are the best you can do. That voice can come from a lot of different experiences - broken family, absent father, abuse. You feel you aren't worthy of being respected and treasured, so you find yourself drawn to guys who don't really care about you. You CAN get rid of that voice and learn to be attracted to the "nice" guys, but it takes practice. It means more "no's" to the dumbies and more "yes's" to the sweeties. And if you can't trust yourself to tell the difference, don't sleep with any guy you just met. Trust me, it sounds old fashioned, but you'll soon find it helps weed out the idiots, because they won't stick around long enough to get to know you as a person (much like your "ex" friend who bailed as soon as you said you had feelings). Keep your pants on and your heart open and you may just be surprised at what comes your way ; )
]
honey beleive me i understand did your parents not have a good relationship im the same way i always get that feeling and always push pple away i havent completely learned to deal with it yet but im getting there for example i write poems to myself bout how i feel i talk to friends ect. your i think maybe going to talk to someone would deff help you help or it could be because you have a low self esteem if you need more help on this issue than id be happy to help good luck
]
More Questions: |