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am I being greedy with him.
Okay well me and my boyfriend just made a year on december 4th . And we haven't been a going out anywhere since the summer . And brought me perfume on our anniversary but before that he hasn't got me anything since september .we haven't been going 2 the movies or out to eat or anything . I just been goin to his house to chilll. Do you think im being a little to greedy of wanting things . I mean cuz I dnt mind going to his house but I like to do other things besides cuddling up and watchin t.v at his house I think im worth more then that . I feel there is other ways to show that you love someone.so I just want to know am I being greedy . Or should I tell him he needs to make some changes if he wants us to last any longer
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Yes. You are being greedy.
The first time I read your question, it seemed pretty innocuous. Then I caught "he hasn't gotten me anything since september" and "I think I'm worth more than that"
Yes, you are greedy. More, you've got a ridiculous preconception that your boyfriend should be paying for your time, and he's probably sick of that attitude.
I'm married. My marriage to my wife is build on the foundation of "we want to do X together". And while there's an element of just wanting to do things with your boyfriend in your quesiton, there's an overbearing amount of "my boyfriend should be treating me like a queen" which is a 12 year old's mentality about relationships.
You gave Rahzie a 3. The truth hurts, doesn't it?
You need to change far more than he does. He just needs to get off his ass and be made aware of the fact that you want more than just couch surfing all the time. You need to change your perspective up so you're not all "my man needs to spend more time, money, and attention on me or he's going to see that I'm worth more than that when I leave"
Some guys are stupid enough to spend money on you to keep you around. They're paying for sex when they do that, so if you want to keep "thinking you're worth more than that" past high school you'd better get used to putting out or dating losers who use money to counter the fact that they have nothing else to offer the opposite sex.
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I'm confused why you don't make some changes. Like, some plans maybe.
You are being greedy if you are expecting him to always pay for dinner, or the movies. After a year togeather, you two have a partnership and you should be able and willing to say "Dude, I think we'd both like that movie! Let's go!"
You both need to make some changes. You can go first. In fact, you'll make it easier for him to change if you pave the way, and let him know what you expect and want, by going after what you expect and what you want yourself.
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