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A Legitimate Apology?
I just got the most shocking message from my ex-boyfriend Kris. I'm still like processing the whole thing... I have no idea what to think or do. Read it for yourselves!
Lexie, I apologize for everything, i dont know what i was thinking, I hate not talking with you. Your the only girl i ever think about, id really like to see you, I love you... i hope you still have some feelings for me :/ i understand if u dont :'( ... i wish you werent mad at me.. i really do love you and no one else, and id really like to see you :) ♥ i hope you can forgive me and we can move on the way we both wanted it to be, just me and you ♥ text me or something.I ♥ U
I'm still so skeptical over the whole message and if this is his true intentions/feelings. Should I call him? What do you guys think I should do? I know my best friends would probably say leave it be and ignore it but I just don't feel like I can do that without having that message stuck in my head replaying over and over again. Sigh.
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send a text back saying 'is this really you?' or something like that, if he says it is, then think do you feel the same way? could you feel the same way? if he texts back something like 'what?' or 'what do you mean?' then that probably means that it was one of his friends being a poop, boys can be real d**ks sometimes
but from the message it probably is him, being sincere, just talk to him, ask him about it, he is the best one to get advise from for sometime like this, not us!
good luck, hope everything go's well :)
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Ok first off sweetie what happened and lets go from their.
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It isn't easy for guys to apologize- most of the time, an apology is an apology. It does seem that he is genuinely sorry for whatever happened between the two of you, and wants to make things better. That said, I cannot give you a straight answer on what you should do, since I have no idea what happened in your relationship in the past. You are going to have to think things through, and weigh out what the likelihood is that he has in fact changed. It wouldn't hurt for you to meet up with him for coffee or lunch, and to be firm about your take on things- without being bitchy, but still remaining grounded and strong. Hear him out- he may genuinely regret anything he has done in the past to hurt you, and has realized after losing you, just how much you mean to him. That is a possibility. But there's also the possibility that he hasn't really changed, and might repeat some of the same mistakes. So I think you should meet up with him in a casual setting, where you can talk, and don't get too emotional or lulled into thinking that things will turn out perfectly. Just remain fairly impartial, and take a step back, looking at things objectively. Ask yourself whether he is sincere, if his eyes/way he talks makes him seem like he really means it, etc. Also, don't be afraid to ask him why he thinks he deserves another chance, and what he will do to change things if you get back together again. In the end, if you think he has changed and deserves another chance, take things slowly, and be cautious, but not too on-guard. Let things progress naturally, and see where things go. But that's only if YOU feel he deserves to have you again.
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I'd give him another chance even though he is your ex it seems like what he said to you he truely meant every word he wouldn't of said it if it wasn't true i don't think he'd lie to you he probably has feelings for you even though the both of you aren't dating meet up with him where you'd like and just hear him out and see what he has to say then decide for yourself what you'd like to do from there :)
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if your serious about this person then meet in a open setting like a pizza place or something and talk about how the two of you feel. if you are'nt ready to take this person back then tell him so- you should'nt lead him on to think that your interested if your really not.
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