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Ok so like iv been hangin out with this guy a lot latly he told me he loves me but he don’t treat me like he does he talks to all these girls we are not dating so he tells everyone we are just f** buddys I already told him I want to be more he said the reason why he hasn’t asked me out is because of all the guys I use to be with but I stoped talking to all of them I don’t know what to do I really want him but sometimes I don’t think he wants me just cuz all the girls he talks to and he is very controlling to me.

He is not worth going after especially if he is going to be controlling.
Hope I helped
Phoebe

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Ok so I like this guy, I sit in the middle of him and his friend in class.
One day in class his friend and him always scoots super close to me, it's really weird so I always push them both away. Another day the guy I like was like "are u cheating on me with my friends?" it was really random because we weren't going out, so I just laughed and said no. He always waves hi to me in different classes and I just smile and wave hi back, he never talked to me before I sat by him. His friends say hi to me now also.
He always takes my pencils and one day he took my notebook and so as I was pulling it away he was like " I have a crush on u." but I didn't know if he was joking or not.
Does he like me?

He may be being sarcastic but if he isnt then ask him dont be shy just go for it.

Good Luck
Phoebe Halliwell

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18/f - 19/m

The other night my boyfriend and I were having sex. The condom broke, but luckily he hadn't came yet. I know there's the whole pre-ejaculation thing, so what I'm asking is can I still get pregnant off of that? I've been told a whole aray of different things. Some being that yes I can, and some being that no I can't. I just need a straight answer. At the time I was just getting off my period (that just so happened to be two weeks early, so someone told me that I was just ovulating). It'd be really great to get an answer. Thank you.

well sweetie there isnt much to say other than yes you can still get pregnant

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I just got the most shocking message from my ex-boyfriend Kris. I'm still like processing the whole thing... I have no idea what to think or do. Read it for yourselves!

Lexie, I apologize for everything, i dont know what i was thinking, I hate not talking with you. Your the only girl i ever think about, id really like to see you, I love you... i hope you still have some feelings for me :/ i understand if u dont :'( ... i wish you werent mad at me.. i really do love you and no one else, and id really like to see you :) ♥ i hope you can forgive me and we can move on the way we both wanted it to be, just me and you ♥ text me or something.I ♥ U

I'm still so skeptical over the whole message and if this is his true intentions/feelings. Should I call him? What do you guys think I should do? I know my best friends would probably say leave it be and ignore it but I just don't feel like I can do that without having that message stuck in my head replaying over and over again. Sigh.

Ok first off sweetie what happened and lets go from their.

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hey so i see you that you were pregnet at a young age when you'd found out what did u do?

First off sweetheart I'm a guy and if I did get pregnant I would probably panic, but then soon after I would take a breathalizer and I would tell my parents directly, yes I know it may sound a bit stupid at first but trust me if your parents love you they will understand and help you.
Good Luck
Sweetheart
Love
Yours
Truly
Phoeba Halliwell

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16/m
hi guys.

so.... i'm very attracted to women. i date a lot of girls and with what i've heard i'm a pretty likable guy (i.e. girls like me). but lately i've found myself to be attracted to guys too... and the thought of getting sexual with a man seems to arouse me just as much as getting sexual with a woman...

so, am i bi/metro/whatever.... or do you think it's just a phase? to be honest, i feel like i'd be ok with being bi. i'm no homophobe; in fact i have quite a few gay friends. but i don't know if i for sure am bi though.... but if i am i don't know how i would tell anyone. i'd feel really scared to tell anyone i think (i go to an all-male catholic school)... and god knows what my girlfriend would think...


thanks guys. i really appreciate all you do on this site.

You are more then likely Bisexual and its not acrime althugh you may get picked on, but thats normal I'm gay and I get picked on, and i'm ok. Just tell everyone in a truth or Dare Game Or something or the other.

Good Luck Sweetheart

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18/M

I know this question is asked to death, but I've read every one of them and they haven't helped. Maybe I'm just venting, but maybe someone can help me.

I can't ask a girl out. Simple. I've been alone with her a million times. The words get stuck in my throat like I'm choking on them. I can't push them out. I have her phone number. If I try to call her, my hand shakes so much I drop the phone. Well, not literally. I can't even do it online or in a text, even though I know that would just be insulting. I'm confident normally, but I freeze. I think things like she'll never want to talk to me again, she'll be disgusted, even though I know they're not true. I just want to ask her to go on a date with me, her to know how I feel about her. I think she felt the same way but just gave up on waiting for me. She deserves to be asked out. What's left for me to do?

I'm going to have to agree with sweethoney on this one just ask her, and if you get nervous act it out with someone.
Good Luck Sweety

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I've been dating this guy for a month, we've gone on 3 dates, he's 2 years older than me. We're both gay and he's in the closet... I don't know whether or not I should ask him to be my boyfriend or wait for him to ask me... What should I do? His birthday is coming up and I was thinking we could have a candle lit dinner and then I'd ask him if he would like to be my boyfriend in a like proposal sort of way ^_^. He's going to be 19 and i'm 17. We both share roles so that it's not strictly dominant/non dominant. So... yeah any advice?? He's never been in a relationship before and i've been in two... Anymore questions just ask me!

Hi my name is phoebe and wat I suggest to you is that You should just stick with him I mean if he hasen't asked you out the n i'm sure it's safe to say that you obviously should

Hope I Helped
And Best Wishes

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Alright so i've been going out with this guy for about of month now and we're exclusive and everything. He lives 30 minutes away and he's a lifeguard and swim instructor (I'm 17 going on 18 and he's 16 going on 17). The problem is, is that he's going to have to work more often and for longer periods of time, from 10-9PM mostly everyday and it's getting harder to see him and much harder to hear from him (before this we texted each other like 24/7) anyway, I really like him and am actually considering professing my love for him tonight but being that he might be working a lot during the school year as well, I'm not sure where we're going in terms of being in a relationship and whether or not I can handle not being able to see him very often. We usually drive to see each other so it's not like I can't go to see him but I want to be able to see him at least once a week like we did before he started working so much. We really do like each other and he's perfect other than the fact that he likes to work so much. Another thing is that I'm turning 18 soon and I'm thinking that I might be able to find guys who are older but can at least be more stable in terms of a close-distanced relationship...It really breaks my heart when I think about breaking up with him because he's such a nice guy... I'm going to talk to him tonight about all of this, but in the end I'm just thinking that it might not be worth pursuing if we're going to keep stressing out about how to see each other when we'll both be busy with school, and him with work...

So it boils down to two questions that I'd like you guys/girls to help me answer...

1.) Should I end this relationship and try to stay friends (even though I know that won't happen) simply because it's going to be harder to see and hear from him?

and

2.) Should I stay with him and try and ride this out and hope that we'll be able to see each other during the school year?

Hi I'm Phoebe and I think that you should go with option number 2 because if you truly are in love with this guy and if he is in love with you then you should let it play by ear and he'll wait with you.

Hope I helped

Best Wishes Phoebe

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so when you are at a party and dancing with dudes, it feels really awkward after dancing and you don't say anything to each other, what are things you can say after or before or something...do you give them a hug or what are things you do and say?

that totally depends if your into guys or girls but if their just your friend then i guess you could say that it's ok to give a good hand shake or hug or even be polite enough to walk that person home.

Hope What I Said Helped

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