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Over-analyzing myself
I used to be a happy, carefree girl always with a smile on my face. Now? I constantly worry about what people think of me, I abuse my body by calling myself fat and ugly, I've lost my 'spark' in my personality, and I'm hard to be around because I've become sensitive to small things like harmless jokes that I take too personally.
I over analyze my every thought and statement which usually leaves me saying something awkward. Has this sudden, dark change happened to you before? Or, any idea on how to become a little more carefree and get back to my old happy self?
17, desperate female, lol.
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I want you to remember ONE THING for me. NOBODY IS PERFECT. How can you be calling yourself fat and ugly? If you were to look ALL around the world. Would you find ONE perfect person? I cant think of any celebrities that are perfect?? Anyone I know is not perfect.
Everyone has different features and talents and you have to work with what you have. If you do think you are 'fat' then you can loose weight. Everyone can loose weight.
And nobody in the world is ugly.
Everyone has a different perspective on life.
And you should concentrate on one thing in your life instead of many different things.
What people say or do.. has got nothing to do with you at all.
When someone makes a comment..
I want you to look at them and see what is so PERFECT about them.
they may have 'perfect' hair.
but there whole appearence or personality isnt.
dont worry!
im sure your spark will come back.
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This "dark change" doesn't sound too good, does it? It's tough to go through life like this, and I went through the same thing. For me, events occured to make me act this way; it didn't just occur by itself. Did anything happen to you that made you lose confidence in yourself? Like friend or family issues? Sometimes recognizing the cause of your actions can help you overcome them.
I would also ask yourself if it has anything to do with your mental state. You could be depressed or suffer from anxiety (believe it or not, this is fairly common, so don't feel as though it's abnormal. It can be treated). I'm certainly not saying that you do suffer from these issues, but it's a possibility and you can get help.
As for becoming more carefree, that's kind of how you handle situations. Sometimes you just have to take a step back and think about what's going on before you act about something. Not everyone's judging you or making fun of you, and you have to be conscious of that while you're out with other people. You need to relax and let yourself breathe a bit, life's not that bad.
good luck, i truly hope things start looking up for you. =]
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