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Family Problems
I don't really like to talk about it, but I REALLY need help. My family is a normal familey; my real mother and father raised me and my brother by themselfs without help, I have a house we own, money is okay, everything's fine except...Me. My brother recently, almost a year actually, had his girlfriend and her baby - Not my brothers, he ex-boyfriend and her baby - move in. I hate the baby, I'm not jealous, not one bit, but she literally HATES me. I don't know why, before than, I was happy and talked A LOT. But now the baby calls MY mom, 'MOM' and her mother, 'Egypt'. (Her actually name) She can't speak well - the baby - and now I think that only my father cares for me. My brother obviously doesn't like me anymore. He ignores me and sometimes calls me 'Egypt' or 'Noah'. The baby's a girl but name is a boy. Now my brother has written in a newspaper(he's 17) and is a Sceniro. Now my family is making a HUUGE thing about this, when it isn't that good. I'm feeling left out in a lot of things, and hate to admit this but I'm thinking about doing something that I might regret later. I make straight A's. Have a few good friends, wish I was someone else, and am only 11 and female. I don't know what to do. I really just want to know SOMEONE actually knows what I'm going through. Please, at least reply back. :(
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You are very young to have to deal with so much. You are not crazy. You are not bad. You have been put in the middle of a stressful situation that has nothing to do with you, but affects you anyway. Things have changed quickly in your house and you weren't given the chance to have a say in any of it. I don't think you're jealous, but its natural you would feel left out. A baby always ends up taking a lot of time and attention from everyone around it. You miss some of the time your Mom used to have for you that now she gives to the baby.
Your brother still loves you. He's not ignoring you. Can you imagine how stressed out he is with a girlfriend and a baby living in his house with his family? Right now he's probably just trying to deal with everything thats happening. It just seems like he's ignoring you, but he's not, he's just wrapped up in his own business.
You really need to talk to someone about this. When you get a quiet moment try to talk to your Mom, let her know what you told me here. Be honest, but try not to get mad. Try to tell her calmly how you feel left out and you miss the way things were. And find an adult at school you can confide in. Do you have a teacher that you trust? Do you have a school counsellor? If you do, go to that person and ask if you can talk about something. Then go ahead and explain your situation and your feelings. I promise you, no one will laugh at you. What you're feeling is real, and anyone in the same situation would feel like you do.
Its going to be ok. You're going to get through this. If you do something crazy now you might miss out on some really great things in the future. I promise you its not always going to be like this. Try to keep yourself busy, homework, friends, reading, whatever. Sometimes it helps to have a distraction. And don't be a afraid to go to your mother. Maybe you could even read her the email you wrote to me, if you don't think you can explain it all well. You did a good job telling how you feel. If that would help you, print it out. You'll do fine. I know you will.
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