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i don't know what to think!
There's this kid that I had a little thing with for a few weeks.Then one of his best friends randomly said he "doesn't like me anymore." He tried to talk to a few of my friends ,but they denied him.And he knew I was interested in him.He isn't good looking or popular ,he actually hasn't had a girlfriend since 8th grade and we are in 11th.I do actually like him a lot ! The reasons I think he likes me are : he talks to me on IM every single night (he talks to me first) for like atleast 2 hours ,he texts me when he's at work just to say hey,he asks me to chill every weekend and sometimes during the week,and sometimes his friends ask me about "us".Yet whenever we have long deep talks (which is almost daily) he gets into how he doesn't bother trying to get a girl and how he isn't trying to "talk" to any girls and how he believes in "love at first sight"..which tends to confuse me.Yet,I never hint that I like him either and I kinda go along with what he says just so I don't sound dumb.This has been going on for about 1 month and we kissed one time when we first started talking.He says he talks to me the most ,(out of girls) so idk...
i need advice! and i'm to scared to bring up "him and I " as a topic unless he brings it up first..HELP!
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Sounds to me like he likes you but, he may have the same fear as you have...not wanting to put it all on the line because of fear of rejection. Everyone has a fear of rejection so they tread carefully. He "...doesn't try getting a girl" and "believes in love at first sight", means (in my opinion)..."I'm not trying to pursue other girls because I found the one I like. You."
I wouldn't come out and play my hand in the open yet. Perhaps when you talk to him again you could say something that will leave him wondering, like, "I really love talking to you, Dexter (or whatever his name is). You're such a refreshing change from the guys I know." or "You're very smart (funny, wise, strong, fill in the blank.) Have you ever thought about being in the CIA? (Saturday Night Live, writing a book, mixed marshal arts contests, fill in the blank.)
Don't get mushy or let your eyes glaze over. Leave him wondering. Statements like this will peak his interest if he really is interested in you. It will leave him wondering if you like him. Guys love compliments (who doesn't). It builds their ego and makes them feel like a man, but don't overdo it! Then it'll sound like you're crazy about him or just plain crazy. Keep it to a minimum, one small, personal compliment every other day or so. He'll say to himself...Hmmm. This is the only girl who really sees me for who I am. She's aware of my great intellect. She must be quite intelligent, herself.
On the other hand, if he's not interested in you, he may distance himself. You have to be prepared for the outcome. Either way, you'll have your answer, and it will come about in a way that will not be embarrassing to you or him, which is what you want.
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Wow...good Job!! caring for your feelings. I think its best to wait and to remind yourself not to fall deep, to keep some distance from him let yourself breath. The thing you do not want to do is reveal to someone feelings that they themselves do not feel the same. I personally would not let this subject come up, if anything id let talk to me about it BUT he has to not winn you over but more of give you trust and change, you should remind yourself what kind of man/guy you want in your life BUT mor importantly remind your self what kind of man/guy/boyfriend/lover you do NOT want in your life.
i hope this helps if not let me know
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