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Trouble with a boy who I think I'm in love with
Well I'm a junior in high school, and last year this boy, who flirts a lot with many girls, including me, started to really have feelings for me, and I just blew it off because he was always just play flirting. He finally convinced me he was serious, and I really started to develop feelings for him. I found out he had a girlfriend this whole time, and got mad at him for flirting so much with me. He told me he didn't like her and broke up with her. I really liked him so we started dating over the summer. He started acting very weird and ignoring me after a few weeks, I finally got sick of it and we decided we were going to take a break, which turned into a break-up. We came back to school and he apparently liked a new girl. He still texts me and tells me he misses talking to me, but always changes the subject when it comes to our relationship. He also told me he didn't like the other girl. I don't know what to do because I've tried to get over this boy but I really think I fell in love, and now I'm stuck because I know I should get over him but I cant. I don't know what to do because he obviously has problems with staying with one girl, but i just dont get how he can go from being sooo into me, to this. I'm just miserable and don't know what to do because I dont want to give this up when I know hes the one for me. Please any advice that would help would be greatly appreciated:)
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I have 2 words for you and a bit of advice.
MOVE ON!
If this guy keeps doing this to you then he isn't worth your time. Find some other guy that well treat you SOOOOO much better.
And also cut off ALL convosertions with him.
If he texts you, calls you etc etc IGNORE IT.
In the end you'll be ok.
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He doesn't just have a problem with staying with one girl.
He has a problem with lying, cheating, ignoring the feelings of others, selfishly going after what he wants regardless of what effect it might have on others, leading people on and treating them like dirt...
His problem isn't about commitment. His problem is that he is currently a lousy ass human being.
The even bigger problem is that he is clearly not even trying to be better. He’s just continuing on with being lousy. It’s working for him. He gets your attention. He gets her attention. And he probably has a few other girls on the line as well.
Please, please, PLEASE understand this now, because it will suck if you don’t get it until your 30s (and some people NEVER get it): This guys ISN’T the one for you, unless what you really want in life, is someone who uses you, disrespects you, lies to you and generally treats you like you are second best.
That is not a guy for you! You are a great person. That is a guy for a weak-willed, pitiful girl, who can’t tell the difference between loving behaviour, and abuse.
It’s okay to have feelings for him. You can’t help that. But don’t go around telling yourself he is the one for you. He’s not. You’re better than that. You have to be better than that. If you can’t be better than that you are going to be miserable, always, until you realize that you deserve better, and go find better, with someone else.
To help get over your current misery: Stop talking to him.
A guy who leads you on like this, is not even your friend. You shouldn’t be talking to him if talking to him hurts you. You shouldn’t be talking to him when you know he lies to you. That isn’t friendly. That isn’t hopeful or respectful. Talking to him if that is how he is going to behave just provides him with new ways to disrespect you.
To keep on talking to him, and too keep on telling yourself that he’s ‘the one’ is just picking at the wound. You’ll never get over him that way. You need to be able to let this go, before it truly damages you. The way to let something go is to get rid of it in the real world as much as possible. Once you’ve done that, you can start to get rid of it in your mind as well.
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Aw, I know exactly how you feel because I've been in the same situation. Boys always send mixed signals and it gets you so frustrated that you want to pull out all your hair, right?
In this case, this boy may like you a lot, but he sounds to me like a player. He flirted with you while he had a girlfriend, dumped her, went out with you, ignored you, you two broke up, and then when school starts, he's liking another girl !
He may have seemed worth all the trouble in the beginning before you found out about him fully, but now since you know what he's like, you should still be his friend of course, but nothing more. But, if you really want to be with him, you should tell him how you feel about this situation and how it's affecting you emotionally, and if he understands, you have to tell him that he must change in order for this to work.
If you need anything else, just ask ! <3
Gooooood luck,girl, and stay strong
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well from they way things sound this is all just high school love when you get older your going to laugh on it, however the best thing you can do which I'll give you choices and explain why
A. you be strong and let him know that if he can't real with you then yall are through
B. you can join the game and what I mean that is
talk to other guys with out him knowing that if your goning to make him your main man/ boyfriend
so when it over you'll may feel the pain but you will have another guy to talk too
C. you can an adult and catch him face to face and talk bout it to him and let him know how it effectin you that way he is acting is becoming over rated....
which ever these choices you feel comfotable with
but make sure you think it over before acting on it....
if you ever have another problems just leave it
in my inbox...and i will get back at you...
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Wow, i am sorry he has put you through all this. This boy, is acting like a "BOY"...reading your story, it shows that you really like this guy. I have to be honest with you. Most boys in junior high are all about having fun. Guys at this age tend not to take things as seriously as we girls do. I think you deserve better than this. A guy who likes you but likes other girls too?....that doesn't sound right at all. The thing about him confessing how much he liked you while he had a girlfriend??? that shows what kind of guy he is. He is the type of guy that will play with your hear. Break it and not even give a damn. He seems very untrustworthy. If he could go behind his girl's back and talk to you, he could do the same thing to you too! You don't need a guy like that...you deserve way much more. And you are right, you will have to move on and get over it. There are much much better guys out there to look foward to!....I hope this helped, and goodluck!
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