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I really need to move on.
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So, last school year I had met this guy in one of my classes and we became 'best friends'
He never considered us this, he always said he only had one best friend, who he always complained about.
Anyway, we would be together during school. ALWAYS. Before, during, in between classes, and after.
I started liking this guy alot. But he never felt the same. Or so I think since he never made a move the whole year.
We would have fights once and awhile and we would end up not talking for a day and he would text me after school saying he missed me, he didn't like pretending he didn't see me in the halls, he needed me, ect. So we'd make up.
But around May, I had enough of the asshole moves he would make, so I told him the friendship was done and legit said "You're dead to me"
New school year, we see eachother everyday now.
We're on talking terms, we still ignore eachother for the most part, but we talk sometimes.
Anyway, for some reason, I still feel like I like this guy. And my friend who knew everything about last year has gotten close to him and she told me she liked him. It was kind of mad.
And jealous, because I do miss him and the way things used to be. But he made it clear to me in September he moved on and I'll live.
I need ways to get over him. I thought I was, but when I saw him again it brought back all those memories.
If I don't get over him soon I have no idea what I'll do. I feel like my sadness of us not being close anymore is starting to control my life.
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wow. this actually happened to both me and my friend. like it got SO bad, i would seriously cry everyday for like 3 months. i realize that won't help you so here's the advice that my sister told me when i was going through this: "you just have to let go. he's obviously an asshole and if you don't get over him now, things are gonna progress to get worse and you're going to regret it. i know you think you were in love but i'm not convinced you even loved him. i know you think that he understood you completely, but if he did, he wouldn't have broken up with you. God doesn't give you anything you can't handle. you can do this." hope that helps.
but if it doesn't, find something that will help you get over him. like mine was music, and i wrote at least 20-40 songs about him. it's a good way to vent.
if you don't like that idea, watch movies. make new friends. bake. buy ice cream. go shopping with friends. MEET NEW GUYS.
hope this helps
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I've been in this situation...the guy seems to be really "close" to you and then all of a sudden he backs off and starts acting immature. This guy sounds wicked immature if you ask me and you don't need that. Its sucks that your friend now has a crush on him but have you told her how you felt about him? You're doing the right thing by distancing yourself from him. As for moving on you can its just everytime you see him its going to remind you of when you use to hang out with him. I use to see my ex guy friend when I was going to school it even got to the point that he was spreading rumors about me all over campus. At this point I miss the guy he use to be...and not the guy who he has become. It took awhile to recognize that but when I did it was for the better!
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The best way is just to switch your focus to other things, or other people.
Go out with your friends, so they can be like your support group.
and try to only remember all the crappy things he did to you, at least for right now,while you're trying to get over him.
and don't talk to him while you still have feelings for him..
just stay away until one day you wake up and you'll feel like wow, I don't need him anymore.
Hope that helped in some way!
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