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How do I lighten up?
I'm starting to get annoying to hang out with. I've become dramatic, emotional, and a blabber mouth. I can't keep my problems to myself, I'm so sensitive to everything people say even when they're joking, and I'm not as fun to be around anymore.
Any tips to loosen up and actually be fun to hang around again?
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I can relate:
Based on your first sentence I would guess that you may have some self-esteem problems, this is perfectly okay. I have major self-esteem problems myself. For me, the root cause was the inherit feeling that I was worth in value less then everybody else.(1)
It also sounds like maybe you want some attention. I used to drop my entire life on anyone who would show me the light of day! It was because I associated bleating out my heart as intimacy or closeness. (2)
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(1&2)My philosophy is that of good-self esteem. Good self-esteem is the belief that we, as humans, are equal. Think of everybody on a horizontal line of equality rather then a vertical line of comparison! What I'm saying is that you have as much value as a person as anybody.
(1&2)It is my suggestion that you stop trying to please your friends. You are fine the way you are, and the more you can do to get this through your head the more readily these seemingly uncontrollable actions will cease. They just wouldn't be an urge if you believed yourself equal.
(1&2)One way I did this is by trying the things that scare me. Scared of having a lot of people around? Go be around a lot of people. Scared of not having your worth validated? Try not telling that guy sitting next to you your life story, instead just keep it to yourself- try giving yourself validation that your worth-while instead of trying to get it from things you cannot control.
My final stance: It is ridiculous to try and validate your worth with anything that you cannot control, and the only thing you can control is yourself. You definitely cannot control what your friends think of you.
Hope I helped,
sincerely Schizotypic.
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start out thinking Postive, and look up quetes and start reading the bible. god is always with you help with your problem. sometimes people don't know. and it not your problems it theres. just laugh it off anyway. becouse you know anymore people don't pay reall atteition i fu really think there being funny unless u tell them.. so u laugh all you want and they not know your laughing at them..
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Your a girl right. That's pretty typical. Nothing to worry about.
xoxo,
dottie4
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