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What should I do...cut her off...is she just really conceited?
I have known this girl for about 5 years, and she considers me her best friend (not necessarily mutual). I have been noticing some things I do not like about her. I'm 23 and she's 22--it's been happening since right when we were younger Now I am very easy going usually and I can talk a lot too, but she is not very polite about things like when she talks she interrupts ALL THE TIME. She also seems to act like just because she goes to the gym now she is the prettiest girl in the world--she's always acted like this before, but it's even more now. I don't go to the gym and am a size 6--I am curvy kind of like the shape of Kate Winselt and I am very proud of it and love it--my bf does too:) She has said things, since going to the gym like "Oh yeah, didn't you gain weight? How much?" Just because I made the mistake of mentioning it. Now, this does NOT make me insecure about that I look like-- I want to get that clear, because I really love my body size 2 (like I was) or size 6. I find it kind of fake that she brings it up like she's curious though. I feel like she has other motives and that is what bothers me about it.
Also, she seems angry when we go to this bar and I always get in free. She said to me on the phone the other day "It's cause you dress sexy." I dress in black dress pants and short sleeved tops (I'm actually quite conservative for my age) when I go out, so that was an excuse! She then told me the same door guy said to her when I wasn't out with her one time, "Oh! I should have let you in. You're lookin good!" I didn't see the pt of that, since I don't brag that I always get in free, even dressed in a classy way, I just get in and when someone asks I say I don't know how much it is cause I didn't pay.
It seems that she needs to make some excuse for me getting in like she said one time "Oh cause he's a white guy." Cause I am white and he is and she's Hispanic. I guess I am giving this example, because it seems like she always has to be on top when it comes to her friends, and when she isn't she will make excuses for why someone else gets male attention and she doesn't, when she usually does all the time.
She even does this with little things. For instance, out in public she always nags me to go to the bathroom with her--which I have always despised--going to bathroom in groups. She will then cut in front of me if I am in front, even if I have a good lead on her to where we are going. It's like she always has to be "on top" figuratively and literally. I don't know what to do, but it is getting on my nerves so much I think I will blow up soon at her. I mean, she is a good friend, whenever I was in a bad state with my bf she was always there for me, but this is making what good things she has done seem less and less important
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Hey girl I had the same issue and the best thing to do is tell her. You know each other for a long time and if she really cares about you enough and your friendship she will change her ways. If not then you guys will move on and not be friends anymore; who needs someone so negative and competitive in their lives? In my case I told her and she told me that she didn't have a problem with the way she is and the she will not change for anyone...we aren't friends anymore and I feel soooo much better because she was quite annoying.
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i use to have the same problem shes jealous shes not comfertable with her body and you are so she trys to bring yu down to make herself feel better honestly tell her how you feel and if things dont change its just goiing to get worse you knw what imean i kno you dont want to be mean but shes having major issues and if you dont adress them than nothings going to change yu know i hope i helped let me kno if you need any more help with this beleive me i kno good luck oh and p.s im glad you dont let her bring yu down because when you do than shell do it worse
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