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I need support kind of. My father I currently live with but my husband and I are getting ready to be moving out. My father has sleep apnia (spelling) He falls asleep with cups off coffee in his had, lite ciggerettes in his hand and burns things, just falls to the floor, falls asleep standing up and just leaning over. Sits down and just falls asleep. I am up half the night scared the house will be on fire im pregnant and have a 2 year old. Hes mad at me for not letting my son hang out with him in his bedroom he falls asleep with him in there and he gets into things. He and I never really got along but yes he is still my father my mother and his got divorced probably 2-3 years ago now and took me to missouri ( i was a minor at the time and had to go ) I dont have any family here I could go stay with besides my husbands family but no room at their homes.He is also always talking bad about my mom calling her a whore and stuff and she never says a thing about him. He recently got mad at me because im starting a new job and paying for a baby sitter. he said why pay when i can do it for free but i would be having a heart attack at work. Last night he slept in the living room chair with a gun in his hand (he claimed he heard a noise) what if my son would have woke up. I just feel im being hateful towards him and i hate feeling that way but sometimes i feel its the best thing since he wont seek help from a doctor. He buys grocery sometimes if i tell him to other wise we by everything for his home and my husband is laid off and i havent started working so we are really tight on money. im not sure what my question is I just need advice and do you think i am being a BIT... Thank You for reading this.
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okay, first, you should fell obligated to anything just because he is you father, thats not how it works. also you are being very sensible, and a very good parent for not letting your son stay with him in his room. you'd be irresponsible if u were, and your father should realise that. hiring a babysitter, is a good idea, as she'll be responsible for making sure your son isn't alone with your father. i understand he wants to be close with your son, but under spervision. get a babysitter who understands the situation. it is very hard having young kids in the same house as older people as both need equal care, because unfortunatley, as much as you love your father, life is getting harder for him. i've had the same situation when iwas growing up, and the main thing is to not let him feel useless. also make sure that gun is kept locked away, even if he does hear a noise. guns cause more trouble than they encounter, and with a 2 yr old, is is an accident waiting to happen.
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