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Why are all guys such jerks? (especially jocks/and pretty boys.)
Why are guys such jerks especially the good looking ones? Mainly the jocks, pretty boys, etc.? Why do all of them have too much confidence and an ego so huge it's hard to believe it was even possible a human to hold? Oh and WHY can you NEVER tell if they just wanna get in your pants or if they really like you for you because they're all good at wooing every girl possibly why is that?
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somebody's been around a bad lot. I just have to get this one out, so bear with me...
Because we're that god damn awesome!
anywho, back to the task at hand. Look kid, its pretty simple, the guys you are going after are mostly like that. its because they know they're awesome, and the girls flocking around them proves it. In about ten years, they're going to be fat, still ful of themselves, and still all-around douchebags. thats what you can expect. Go after guys from a different crowd. thats the only way you are going to get out from the cloud of egotistical fucks at this stage in your life. Once you're out of school(I presume you're still in school), the pickings will improve. But guys at that age that aren't idiots are very hard to come by, hell, even the decent bastards like me were still under the control of a hyperactive sex drive. If you can hold a decent conversation with a guy for more than ten minutes, chances are he's a good guy. and by decent conversation, I mean something thats not the usual shallow bullshit that girls your age talk about. try bringing up current events, like the iran nuke crisis with one of the more nerdy fellows that lets you cheat off his test in science class, or shakespeare. NOTE: this requires preparation.
We're not all that bad kid, its just certain retards that fuck everything up for the rest of us poor saps.
-Gunner
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I agree with the answer below- popular guys (jocks, pretty boys, etc.) are definitely as (if not more) self-conscious than the rest, but are better at hiding it. They exude this arrogance that makes them appear confident. I cannot say this of all the jocks/pretty boys/popular guys, but I can say that many of them embody these traits.
The reason why so many of these guys APPEAR to have too much confidence, and have such an inflated ego, is that people around them (friends, popular girls/guys, etc.) feed their ego. By making a big deal out of who they are (popular), how they look, what they do, who they date/have dated, etc., people inadvertently make guys like that more and more arrogant overtime. Certain guys are just predisposed to being arrogant, and when people go ga-ga over them for one reason or another, it only fuels the arrogance.
As for why they are so good at wooing every girl...well, I don't know if I can give you a definitive answer (there are probably many). I can say though, that a lot of arrogant guys think they know what girls want and/or want to hear, and they just become better and better at fooling certain girls into thinking that they are in love with them, when all they really want is one thing. Afterall, trying to fool people is an arrogant thing to do. But, as the previous columnist mentioned, guys at that age are pretty much predisposed to wanting sex ALL the time, so I would say that to a certain extent, you might find this wooing thing to be common among a lot of teenage guys. Decent guys do not constantly woo girls to get inside their pants- but arrogant guys tend to do so. Think of it this way: wooing is fooling, and fooling someone is an arrogant act. Arrogant boys do arrogant things.
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Although some guys may seem like jerks, most of them really are as self-conscious as you. They just seem to hide it better. Let them enjoy their egos right now. Once they leave the security of school and find they are suddenly no longer Big Man On Campus, those egos will deflate faster than a balloon landing on a cactus.
As for being able to tell if a guy wants in your pants, assume that they all do. It's not totally their fault, but the fault of hormones over which they have little control. In other words, it's biological for them to have these urges, and with so many pretty girls around, it's easy for them to act on those urges. But remember, conquest is the name of this game. They're not even remotely ready to settle down with one girl yet, so don't become just another knotch on a guy's belt.
All my luv-
Aunt Kerry
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some of them like to keep that macho image and dont know the right way to go about it so they do what they can to look tough and impress people and show off. i was like that to until i was taught and grew up.as far as your last qeustion i would say it takes time.
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