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wow wtf did i do wrong
this might be a little long, but please bear with me
i just started talking to this girl, were both in high school. ive been talking to her on mysapce for like a week and shes prety and all.
so what i do is that i say "oh u looked nice at school today" or "oh nice pic" and stuff like that.
everythigns going good....and then i decide to ask for her number. AND I DIDNT ASK IN A PIMP WAY> i just asked straight up "hey, whats ur number"
THATS IT. and then like ten minutes later she tells one of her guy friends to message me and he said that i was freaking her out....... WOW.
all i did was ask for her number and she told me that im hitting on her. WELL TO BE HONESt, I AM.
WELCOME TO THE REAL WORLD.
BUT WHAT DID I DO WRONG? now she wont respond.
and please dont say that i came on too strong, because MILLIONS of hotshot white jocks come on girls WAYYYY FASTER.
ANd the girls love it. WHAT DO I HAVE TO DO. do i have to be mr perfect hercules? GODDDD this is so confusing and stupid and pathetic.
please help.
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I guessing she dnt want to be bothered or maybe she is not used to the attention or maybe it is just your looks . But what ever it is if your really lookin 4 a girlfriend dnt come on to strong take ur time . Get 2 kno her better. And let them get to know you better . If any more questions email me at ldiva223@aol.com
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What you need to do, is be approachable and friendly IN PERSON as well as online.
Online only is creepy by definition. It stunts conversation, keeps things direct and removes all of the context of tone of voice and body language. A sentence like 'What' your phone number?' can easily sound like a demand online, rather then a friendly lets-keep-talking request.
The same problem can happen the other way too! You think she's been 'talking' to you for a week, and she might not even realize you keep messaging her. What you think of as a conversation she might just think of as typing short polite responses to this guy from school she doesn't even know.
IN PERSON IS IMPORTANT.
It humanizes. Lets a girl know you are interested in a personal level. The more important the message you want to convey to a girl, the more important you do it in person, where you both can judge each others complete reactions, not just a few words on a screen.
So what do you need to do? Open your eyes to the actual girl. Screw up your courage and look her in the eye when you ask for her number, or for a date, or for anything else even a little bit important. You'll be less likely to miss important messages (like, "I'm uncomfortable. and not into you." if you address her as a person and not an online entity. You're also less likely to be seen as creepy because you'll be nervous and even the girl isn't interested, that will help her see that you are sincere, not creepy.
Hotshot jocks do come on to girls way faster, but thats in large part because they have the confidence to approach a girl in real life and the experience to read the non-verbal signals she is sending off. Without building a strong in-person friendship first, most girls wont respond very well to being hit on exclusively online.
You don't have to be perfect, you just have to put forth a bit of extra effort to let a girl know you, the real person you, not the you behind a keyboard, before you try to make a move.
Also, you need to accept some people are just crazy. She might just be nutso. Let it go, do better next time,
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