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My Birthday Wish..
Note:This is so emotional for me to write..bare with me.To start things off,I just wanna say thanks to whoever reads this.God..I really just need to be heard.Ok..I graduated High school may of this year..2009.I have no job(I have been looking!),Im not enrolled in college or anything(I really want to be!),and basically I feel like my life is being put on hold.Senior year was really hard for me.I had senior due's to pay including prom,senior pictures,ect.Not having a job at the time,the only thing(or shall I say person)to depend on was my mother.I guess my mom didnt wanna waste her money on my senior year so she didnt.She didnt pay so I missed out on so much and I was crushed.To see all my fellow senior classmates wear their senior t-shirts and everything made me feel sooo left out.So,now thats its fall season(college season),I really want to go to college and get a higher education.But the one thing that is stopping me is money.I have like the selfish parents ever.I love both my mom and dad dearly,but at times like this I just dont feel cared about.I cry like every night when I hear how much fun my friends are having in college and the way they love their dorm rooms and i feel like I have never had the chance to better myself.I recently learrned of goverment grants out there and decided to appy.But in the process,I learned that in order to recieve the book and guide I had to pay an $1.95 shipping and handling fee.You apply for grants on the internet and therefore have to enter you credit card number.I dont have a credit card.And If i did,there wouldnt be any money on it becuase I dont have a job to start with.So I asked my parents..I got a no.My heart broke in two.I cant even get $1.95 for a mailing fee.I feel stuck and that I will never get to where I want to be.I've tried everything..Finacial aid,scholarships,everything.I sit in my room waiting for that day to come when someone or something is gonna change my whole life.I pray every chance I get and my faith is still a little rocky.On september,18,2009,I will be eighteen years old.Legal of age.A young woman.If I was granted one wish on that day my wish would be to start my life...the right way.I would want to start living and not just existing.So..I want some help from you guys.I want you guys to help me to understand that everything will be ok and that my life WILL get better and that im not wrong for wanting to better myself becuase right now..at this very moment..I dont need a best friend or a million dollars.I just need someone to listen.Someone to understand.
Thanks to all the readers.
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I agree with the previous advice. Community college is cheaper to start out. But I think the larger issue is that you feel your parents owe you something. They have raised you, fed you and clothed you to this point. Its not your right to have your college paid for by your parents. It would be nice, but they don't owe that to you. If you really want to go to school that bad, you have to find a way to do it on your own. It can be done, but you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself (a little bit of that is fine, we all do it sometimes) and start being proactive. First, any site that wants you to enter credit card info for grant info is NOT legit! Don't waste your time with those. Go to your high school counselor (you can still visit, even if you've already graduated) and ask for some resources for grants and scholarships. Find a job if you don't already have one, and try not to have a chip on your shoulder. You may think your Mom is being selfish, but have you considered what SHE has to pay for? Rent/mortgage, bills, cars, gas food? Maybe she just doesn't have the extra money. But listen, take it from me, if you do this on your own you will appreciate the experience much more than some spoiled kid who just got it all handed to them. I graduated college and never got ANY help from parents. I worked, got loans and scholarship, and I still consider it one of the greatest accomplishments of my life. You CAN do this. You sound intelligent and you have goals, so that's a great start. Its okay feel sad and misunderstood, but at some point you have to get moving again. You just have to accept that it is what it is and figure out another way. I believe you can do this. Like I said, I did it myself, so I know its possible. Don't worry so much about other people and what they have and do. Concentrate on the things you CAN control (work, research, saving money, etc.) and don't forget that Rome wasn't built in a day. Anything worth having takes time and commitment, but it can be done. And someday you'll have an inspiring story to tell your own children, or maybe even inspire other teens with how hard you worked to get what you want. Good luck!
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It is much cheaper to start out at a community college and then transfer after 2 years to a university. I recommend going down to your local community college and ask to speak to someone about applying for grants and other financial aid. It should be free. It was for me. The person at the college applied for me right then and there by asking me questions. I would also look for any kind of job possible at this point so you will have some type of income and won't have to rely on your parents. I am sorry your parents are so selfish. I hope that you have a good birthday.
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