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comming out
So I am a girl and I am in my first relationship with a girl. We have been dating for about 3 months. Well none of my family knows and I feel im not being true to my girlfriend because they dont know. Like when I stay at her house I tell my mom im somewhere else. I am scared to see there reactions but I am in love with the girl. They say its hard comming out but how can I deal with this? She wants us to get our own place too.
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Its normal to be a little afraid and nervous just because you dont know how they are going to react. You have nothing to worry about, being in love is beautiful no matter what sex is in love with what sex. Your parents will support you either way, it might take some time getting used to though :-). but thats normal too. Dont worry about it, the sooner you get it off of your chest the better it will feel, and you will realize you were nervous for nothing.
Good luck! If you want to talk, im here for you!
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Just be honest with your parents, if they love you they will support you. And if not, its going to be hard but they are going to have to deal with it because they cant change who you are and how you feel.
Just sit them down one day and tell them that you are attracted to the same sex. Yess it will be a shock to them but it will get better with time i promise!
Good luck & Hope i helped =]
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If you feel its right tell them. They will be shocked the first time but they will come around. If they love you they will love you no matter what and for what you are not what they want you to be.
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How old are you? Eighteen? Nineteen?
A basic piece of advice I would give to anyone your age is:
Don't move in with a lover until you have lived on your own for a while.
Maybe you are already living outside of your parents home, which is good. Living by yourself, or with roommates, is an important learning opportunity and part of growing up. You learn to be self-reliant and to manage your own life in a way that just doesn’t happen when you cohabitate.
Regardless of what else is going on in your life, or in hers, the best thing for you personally, is to learn to live on your own for a while, before jumping headlong into cohabitation.
Also, three months is WAAAAAAAAAY too short a period of time to be seriously considering moving in with someone. That’s not advice. That’s just a fact. Latest survey I read out of NYU was that 84% of couples, who move in together after dating for less than a year, break up before 9 months.
Okay, now for coming out.
Don’t mention possibly moving in with her, at all.
That’s like taking someone from Florida to the moon in one conversation. It’s gonna make the scary thing even scarier.
You are the one who knows your family best, but most people suggest the best way to go about it is to tell the parent or sibling you are most comfortable and close too first, and to ask for their advice and support in telling others.
For the best advice about coming out though, read this:
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If your family is open to it, give them this link:
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Hey-
Yes, comming out of the closet is hard.
I think if you just be straight up with your family, they will be fine with it. They're your family, and they will always love you.
Good Luckk :)
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