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two blows in one day. (kind of long, sorry!)
The other problem: After last night's ordeal, I woke up this morning and discovered that one of my best friends likes my ex who I am still partially attached too, even though we broke up awhile ago. I wouldn't wanna be with him, but he was my first boyfriend and I feel territorial about it.
Anyways, he likes her back and they talked about hanging out more to see if they wanna have a relationship. I told my friend that I wouldn't be a good friend if I tried to keep them apart, so she was grateful of that. I'm trying to do the right thing here, but its going to be really hard to see them together. Is it wrong to feel this way? If I were to ask my friend not to confide in me about this one particular guy and relationship, would that be understandable? I don't want to hear her details about her experience with my ex. It would make me jealous.
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It is not wrong at all to feel like that! In fact your being overly nice to her! I would never let a friend of mine date me ex and a true friend would never go near my ex. Since it's already occuring you just got to tell ur friend that it hurts to much to hear the details and ask if she can spare you. That's the least she could do for u!
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It's not wrong to feel this way.
You did the right thing in giving your friend space to make her own choices.
It wouldn't be the least bit wrong to ask your friend not to give you the gory details about her and your ex. That would be totally fair.
Eventually, if they do have a relationship, you will need to find a way to be okay seeing them togeather if you want to keep her friendship. It wouldn't be right to flat out refuse to hang out with the both of them. But that issue is still a little while off. You've got a few weeks at least before you might, possibly need to handle such a thing.
For now, go ahead and let your friend know, in a gentle and supportive way, that although you want her to be able to talk to you, you just aren't comfortable hearing details about this right now, and to ask her to keep it to only the most basic facts on the matter and to save her gushing for other people.
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