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should i still do it?
ok so I'm back with another crisis. So I like this guy, he and I are really good friends. It was the first day of school and everything is going to be perfect. I chilled with him after school before he went to soccer practice. Than my best friend comes and ask me if I told him how I felt. I said no just waiting for the perfect moment. She tells me that two of my other girlfriends like him. One of them liked him last year when I didn't and went onto a different guy. But now she's back into him and some other guy. The other one just started recently liking him. And now, they have no idea how I feel about him. I thinking of not acting on my feelings because they are two of my closest friends. However, i wanna tell him but I still scared he might reject me and our friendship would be over. So please give some help!!!
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I wouldn't tell him. If he likes you, he will make the first gesture. Guys, throughout the ages, have always found girls more intriguing when they have to pursue them. This hasn't changed in the 21st century. Girls have changed, but guys haven't. If you come out and spill your feelings, you may appear too eager and that's a turnoff.
I wouldn't be so concerned about the other girls who are interested in him. I suppose 'who he chooses' is the factor here. If you don't want to risk your friendship with him, then don't tell him you like him. Continue to be friends and if the friendship is really solid, it can eventually lead to a bf/gf relationship. They are the best kind.
Sit tight and let him pursue you.
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This is one of those situations everyone would HATE to be in, and sadly, you're in it :/
Anyways, if I were you, I would go for it, you shouldn't let other people influence you to not go through with this. I know they are 2 of your closest friends, but if they really are that close, than they'll respect your decision to tell the guy you are crushing on that you like him. If they don't know how you feel about him, and you guys haven't talked about it, than it won't matter. It's not like they said anything to you about it, your OTHER friend told you.
You should always follow your heart, even if your mind is telling you not to do something, your heart should be the first thing you listen to because in the end, thats where your feelings lie. And you might always be thinking [if you decide not to go through with it and tell this guy how you feel], "what if i DID tell him, would we be together now? what would have changed?"
Your friends wouldn't and shouldn't be mad at you for doing this. You have feelings too, and it's not like you're doing this intentionally. They can't tell you what to do, or that you can't like him or tell you who to like. and maybe if it would make you feel better, tell them about your feelings. Just be like, "hey i like ______ and I really want to tell him how i feel." so it's like they know, yuh know ? so they can't be like, I CANT BELIEVE YOU DIDNT TELL ME.
Now, if you DO go through with it, and tell him how you feel, it won't ruin the friendship if he rejects you. It will only ruin it if you let it. and everyone is scared of rejection, but if it's a risk worth taking, then go for it. When/if you tell him, just be cool about it. Don't make it seem like you're pressuring him. you could be like, "hey, i don't know if you noticed, but i've started to really like you, and i just wanted to let you know haha :] i mean, i don't know if you feel the same or anything.." something like that so it's low key but getting your feelings out at the same time :] yuh know ?
If he doesn't like you, than oh well. there are other fish in the sea, and maybe in the future he;ll change his mind. just keep talking to him, tell him its okay and move on. You guys can still keep the friendship alive [i would know] but if he DOES like you, than YAYYYY !! hahaa :]
good luck ! hope i helped, and you sound like a great girl, so don't doubt yourself. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
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