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My problem is this: I used to work in a restaurant with a lady we will call Dee. Dee and I became the best of friends, even after I quit we would talk 2 or 3 times a day on the phone. The problem was that Dee had parties all the time and I was never on the guest list. This went on for fifteen years. I had confronted her about it a couple of times and got very evasive answers, Like you don.t know my daughter (after she was having a 300 guest graduation party). She also had jewelery parties and I love jewelery more than anything. I also have to explain around Halloween she lied about passing out candy when i told her I was bringing the kids trick or treating by her neighborhood. (She didn,t want me there) I have to say as well that I don't have parties at my house. And one more thing Dee did invite me to a pyschic party she was having an hour before it started, just because she was short on the quota of 10 people and needed my 35.00. A really strange thing to is she used to always invite a friend of hers who she always complained about. Why I am writing is because I miss my friend, this was the only problem we had and its bazaar to me. We now haven;t spoken for six months, after she was telling me about another jewelery pary she was having. I don;t want to go back to this hurt, But if we are friends again I don;t know how to get thru it. Because if I get invited I donot want to go. please help I really feel used because maybe she just wasn't my friend
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Before you decide if Dee is a true friend or not, I think you should try talking to her again. If she just ignores you or is rude to you, that's a sign that she's not a real friend. She might be showing off to you or something. Who knows, she may have talked to you just to 'pass the time' or she had nothing better to do or something. If that's the case, forget about. You don't need people in your life who cause you pain. Although the people who you love the most, may even cause you more pain than anyone else. Again, I think you should nicely and calmly confront her again. Why don't you call her about chat about how she's been or what she's been up to lately? I know how it feels to be excluded from something, so you're not alone. :) If you do end up moving on from the past, who knows, she might come 'running back to you'.... You never know what you have until you've truly lost it. Telling or showing her that you feel hurt, she might get some sort of sick and strange satisfaction from that. When she realizes you don't care anymore, she might come running back to you as I said before. Or maybe she's embarrassed to introduce you to all her other friends? Again, you'll never know the truth unless you talk about it.
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Well Dee sounds a little snobby so i wouldnt be friends with her because shes being straight up mean and why would you want a friend who doesnt invite you to do anything with her and who just brags about things you dont need her so stop hanging on to her and move on the past might have been good but live in the present times and dont care about what shes doing and why she didnt invite you to parties and stuff you must have other friends who you can hang out with and have a good time with so forget this Dee person and begin a new chapter because people like her arent good friends and can never be and there not worth your time,love or attention.
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