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What do I do for her
My gf n I went out for a year n a half and kissed another girl who she is now good friends with but at the time she lost trust we fought and I didn't understand why then but now I do. She broke up with me over a text and the same night I got with a girl. We didn't talk at all after that and I figured shed never talk to me again so I just got drunk all day and got with a lot more girls. Two months after we broke up I saw her at a party and troed talking to her again. One weekend I heard she was getting with another guy, which she wasn't but I messed up and showered with this other girl twice at this camping concert and we did a bunch of shit . I didn't have my phone near me all that weekend so I never asked her about it or talked to her and once I got home and found out she wasn't getting with the other guy I knew I couldn't tell her what I did I was drunk that whole weekend. She found out a week later. It's been two months since that and idk what to do. I've done everything possible to show her I'm for real this time. Sometimes she seems like she might give it another try but most days she says how much she hated me or mentions other girls. Other days she's happy and wants to hang out. I just dono what I can do for her. Any help would be appreciated
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First off, you shouldn't have "gotten" with all those other girls. It's unattractive and really killed your chance with your ex.
That being said, all you can do is give her time. You need to sit down with her and spill your heart out. Seriously, we're suckers for that. Then, give her some time to figure things out. Don't talk to her for a while. Give her time to think and sort stuff out.
Then, let her decide if she wants to be with you or not. Let her make up her own mind, but make sure you let her know how you're feeling, too.
-Laura (17-f)
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Well the first thing to say is that it is your fault for messing up and doing things so soon, however i feel like you probably know that. I believe it is more up to her feelings to decide if theres even hope. You can try as hard as you want but if she doesnt want it then its still not gonna change her mind. I understand people mess and up and i personally am in a relationship that had something similar (except i was cheated on during the relationship with a close friend), but we are moved on and everything is ok. The thing is i do remember it, however when i bring it up i realized it only causes more stress on our relationship.What you need to do is find ways to make her forget that person you were. Show her your good side and give her reasons to fall in love with you again and keep her mind off of your mistakes. If you love her and she forgives and loves you everything will work out, but only if you actually learn from your mistakes. Remember though, most people look at the fact that alot of cheaters cheat again so dont expect an easy road, and try to stay positive even when the going gets rough. Goodluck, hope it works out!
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