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Long distance relationship!
I'm in a long distance relationship, and sometimes my boyfriend and I go silent. It's happened like 3 times during our 3 month relationship, and we'll both agree to leave the conversation and talk tomorrow when we're feeling more talkative.
But after we leave we both end up worrying that the other person is upset with us. And I'm tired of this. NOTHING is wrong, I've tried to explain to him, some days I am just quiet. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to stop (mainly his) our worrying? It's like we both know nothings wrong, that we're just being quiet, but we still worry hahaha. Please help, thanks!
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my boyfriend and I were together for a year, then we had a long disance relationship while he was offshore for a job for 4 months. we found that we would have these awkward silences too, heres what helped us:
If you are running out of things to talk about, talk less times during the week. if you talk every night, cut it down to every other night or once a week.
I kept a diary that I would write in every night, about my day, and he kept a journal.
on friday we would call eachother, and read what we wrote each day. There was never any awkward silences, and we laughed alot at some funny things we would write.
if hes not too far away, take turns driving to see eachother if you can
let me know if you need anything.
=] steph 21
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The only thing you can do is explain to him when you guys are talking that you do get quiet at times. Then, when you have a day where you're both being quiet say, "Sorry. I'm not upset or anything. I'm just in a quiet mood."
That's as straightforward as you can possibly be about this subject. Maybe if he hears you say that you're not upset and that you're just not talkative that day, he'll be able to put his mind to ease.
It doesn't happen that often, on average once every month. It's okay to not constantly talk. When things are starting to get like that, just sign off or hang up before it gets to the point where there has been a weird ten minute silence. Just say, "Well, I'm going to go (whatever you're going to do when you end up signing off/hanging up). I'll get a hold of you later, okay?"
Darby(:
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