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Dreams about a guy that I haven't talked to in a while
I already asked this question publicly..but I was wondering if you could just help me out with understanding this?
Okay last year I was in 10th grade. This guy started talking to me randomly, he recently turned 18, and I just turned 15 (this was october 2008). Soo, one day..I was sitting out from gym because I just hate sportss, and he sat out too because he was unprepared. He started talking to me about school, gym, and how old we each are. After that, he talked to me often, and he also stared at me a lot. I even heard him tell his friend, who is a girl, that he thought I was pretty. So, I kind of thought he liked me. And, I liked him too of course. But, after several months of flirting off/on, he just stopped talking to me. Basically, school ended in June, and I haven't talked to him in like..maybe, 6 months? But, all the sudden, starting 2 days ago, I keep having dreams about him! They're weird too..the first one was in school, and he was sitting their with this girl I know (the girl who he told that he thinks im pretty) and he looked sad or something. The dream wasn't even long. That's what it consisted of. Then last night, the dream was that I was with my friends, and all the sudden he appeared and was with some girl (who ive never seen in my life) and they were holding hands and stuff. In both dreams I didn't talk to him or anything. It's weird! Why am I suddenly having dreams about him? I haven't talked to him in soo long, and I THOUGHT I was over him since he started to ignore me. Please help? Any advice? Thankyou.
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well its very normal for a person to have dreams about someone but the often one is when they havent talked to that person in a while.It means that somewhere old memories came up in you brain when you are sleeping i have them to i had a dream about my gramdma passing and that happend YEARS AGO but mostley6 stuff you think about often only come up if you dont think about him in your mind when your up I suggest that you should either bring those feelings back to the surface because trust me you were never over him! or tell him the truth and know im always avalible!! good luck,
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I generally don't answer dream questions, and this is why:
I don't believe dreams 'mean' anything at all.
Sigmund Freud's theory of dreams said dreams were a reflection of the unconscious mind, it's concerns and preoccupations. This confirmed what hundred of religions and spiritualists thought: That dreams MEANT something.
As brilliant as Freud was, and as much credit as he deserves for beginning psychiatry, he was actually dead wrong about a hell of a lot. It didn't take long for people to start debunking the idea dreams had a deep meaning left and right as we learned more about the human brain, for the more boring, and more scientific idea, that they are simply our brains doing their best to make coherent sense of a noisy, busy brain stem while you sleep. I know that doesn't answer WHY we dream, but science does give us that good idea about HOW we dream. It's not completely random but it's not mystical or ripe with purpose either.
Also, we have about 40 dreams a night! We don't even remember most of them. For some reason, we like to apply meaning to the ones we happen too remember, which are almost always the ones that take place closest to waking up.
A Harvard University professor named Robert Stickgold at Harvard Medical School's Center for Sleep and Cognition (I'll link you to the Times article below) said this about dreams and dream analysis, and I think it sums it up really, really well:
� �I have no doubt that dreams can be enjoyable, informative, even revelatory to the dreamer, but dream analysis is a more tricky question. The more dogmatic and doctrinaire the beliefs of the analyst, the less useful and potentially more destructive the analysis process becomes." People should understand, he adds, that dreams aren't constructed with the goal of delivering a message; they don't have an inherent meaning. �
So why do I think you dreamed about this guy? If I had to make a guess (and this is a guess, not an analysis) I would guess that you are getting ready to go back to school in a few weeks, and that your brain is playing around with those images, people and familiar occurrences and then shoved em all together to create these these interesting little stories while you slept.
Whether or not you are over him, is up to you, not your dreams.
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Oh! And here is another great artical from the New York Times:
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