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losing him..?
ok. i will try to make this as unconfusing as i can. i like this boy but he doesn't talk to me. i know he likes me though because i gave him a note that said i liked him and he wrote one back saying he likes me a lot but he cant talk to me because he gets to nervous. i on the other hand have done everything, i called him first, wrote a note first, emailed first. he admitted to my friend that he needs to put effort in but he doesn't know how. lately i feel like I've been losing him. he used to look at me and my friend said the looks he gives me are like I'm the most important thing in his life and i don't get those looks anymore, in my opinion. like, i would take a bullet for him and i feel like I'm falling in love alone but I'm not looking to let go of him yet. also, we both attended a party where someone of my group heard him saying he never liked me to begin with but he gave me a note saying he did. I've been so hurt by him but he really is an amazing guy and i really think i can bring the best out in him. so! my question is: am i losing him? why do you think he said what he did?
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ok well my answer would be u should just tell him straight out "im not even sure if you like me at this point. but i want you to know that i still have feelings for you and the ball is in your court" let him deal with it from there. :] good luck!
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It's possible he's extremely shy around you. You gave him a note saying you liked him, and he said he liked you too..well, although he gets too nervous..that doesn't mean he shouldn't try talking to you and get to know you. Very odd. Anyway, first of all, if you were to get in to a relationship with this guy..you'd be the one initiating everything. I'm not saying it's a bad thing..in the beginning you won't mind..but after a while, it'd get annoying. If he doesn't put any effort in to it..that's ridiculous. It should be 50/50. However, it is possible he feels you and him will go no where because he is too shy around you. I know it sounds stupid..but, some guys give up on things if they don't have the guts to pursue it. He's obviously too shy to ask you out or anything..so it's possible he's trying to move on or he's waiting for you. I don't see how he could lose his interest that fast though. The fact that he said he never liked you is extremely rude and hurtful. But, he could've said it because he was around friends? You never know the full story. But, regardless of why he exactly said it..it should've never been said in the first place! (if he actually did say it). Honestly, you're afraid of losing him..well, you need to re-think this guy over. If you really want him that bad..you need to talk to him face to face. Get to know him and stuff. But, as far as it goes with the "never liking you" part..I would confront him on this and ask. Tell him what your friend said and everything. See what he has to say to defend himself. He either said it, or didn't. Some rumor's aren't even true so keep that in mind!
Good luck! :)
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hi hun! gosh this was pretty confusing. but from what you've put into your little paragraph... you've never spoken face to face before? if so, that's gonna be super critical in finding out the truth. which is probably what you need to do. confront him in person and let him know that you need to know what he feels about you. otherwise, you're going to always end up in this topsy turvy situation. i mean, if for some disgusting and disrespectful reason he was just playing you all along like you stated you heard, then you DEFINITELY do not need someone like that in your life. and they definitely shouldn't be holding some sort of importance in your life either. so i think your best bet is to confront him, and tell him how you feel. and ask him how HE feels. best of luck sweetie!
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