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I feel like the unwanted "little sister"
Sorry this is very long, but this is the first time im talking about it my whole life. I love my family, and i love my sister. I always have. Shes going to college in a month, and im going to be a sophomore in high school, but ive noticed that i feel like everything i do, she does better. It has been this way for a long time.
When i was little, i was really into dance. I wanted to take a dance class. My sister, Jenny, was never really into dance. Once I started to get good, Jenny joined the class, and became #1. It was frustrating that she just decided to do it because i was getting recognized, and she worked her ass off to become better. I quit after the recital, and she quit the next year.
After dance, i got into soccer. I was on the team from 1st grade to 5th grade. Jenny then decided to do soccer, and then always had my dad, who was the assistant coach on MY team, go to her games. He would miss half my practices just to see my sisters game. Eventually, he quit being assistant coach. At 5th grade, the team fell apart. My sister quit soccer that year. Coaches always tried to get her to be on their teams though. It was frustrating.
Then i started to run. It was a good way to stay in shape, and blow off steam. It was relaxing and made me feel great. I started in like 6th grade. I was set on joining the track and cross country team the next year. Jenny joined the track team as her freshman year in high school, as soon as i started running. She became the "track star" and was invited to states and nationals and everything, but never went. It was so frustrating that she would only join because i was. She would never admit it, even though she hated running, adn would always complain about it. She quit her senior year of high school, btu im still running. People always ask me if MY SISTER got me into running. I politely say, no we got into it at the same time, but its still so annoying.
I love animals. I always have, and i was the one to convince my parents to get a dog. Jenny always HATED pets and dogs. They hated her too. It was just horrible to have her in the same room with my puppy. When we started to get older, and she turned like 16, she would brag to guys and parents about how SHE took care of the pets and SHE loved them. I WAS THE ONE WHO FED THEM AND WALKED THEM AND BRUSHED THEM AND WASHED THEM AND CHANGED THEIR WATER OR CAGE SHEDDING AND TOOK CARE OF THEM. She only had 2 fish, and killed them both within a week. I took care of 2 dogs, 3 cats, a hamster, and they all lived long healthy lives. It made me want to hit something.
Ever since i was 5, i LOVED kids and babies. I could relate to them, and animals, more than i could with adults and people my age. It is still that way. I want 3 kids, and i want to be an elementary school teacher. Everyone knows i want to do that. Jenny always wanted to make a lot of money, and be a lawyer. She applied for her colleges, and got into the one she wanted. She decided she was going to go into Pre-Law. She already knew she was going to do that. YESTERDAY, a month before she goes to college, she decides she wants to study EDUCATION. WTF?! She doesnt want kids, she doesnt want pets. She hates children, and babies, and tries to avoid them. She says, "I only like people 18 and older". I DONT UNDERSTAND. Shes deciding to start next semester though.
Honestly, I need your help. Am i just jealous or does she REALLY seem to do this just to get on my nerves? Its like she wants to take everything i like and be better at it, adn once i stop, so does she. I know im jealous, but i cant help it. I have never told anyone any of this, so it is kinda a rant. I thank you all for reading this, i know its very long. And if she is doing it to bother me, i want to talk to her about it. We have always been pretty close, and i dont want to hurt her, or our friendship. so What would i say? and how do i put it nicely. THANKYOU ALL<3
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I'm the younger sister as well. My mum is a single parent and when people ask she always says she doesn't pick favorites.
Bull. My sister has always one upped me on everything and it gets completely annoying. I work my ass off for awards and no matter how much I win she always gets the praise and attention.
It's tiring, I completely understand. Honestly, think of the qualities that you have, and the ones your sister has. I mean, who's going to be proud to say 'As a kid I was a liar.'? No one.
Just be honest with your sister, I'm always bruitally honest with mine and even though we fight we still have a really close bond.
On the career choice, maybe she's afraid. Law is not only a hard course, but it's also really difficult to succeed in it.
Just sit her down and talk. It may seem hard, but it'll benefit your relationship with her.
To end this, a quote from one of my favorite books. "Don't think, don't judge, just listen."
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I think your being an insperation to your sister in stead of her being an insperation to you. or shes just jealous of you and wants to be better at everything you do because she wants to make herself look better so shes using your sports against her. But I'd go with option one
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Let me tell you something: this situation sucks, and I'm really sorry that you go through this, but in all honesty she is harming HERSELF more than you by acting this way. Just think about it, she spent her whole childhood doing things she hated, which meant that clearly she was insecure and jealous of YOU, not the other way around. Maybe she was better at things when you guys were kids, but you're going to grow up and remember doing things you loved, she's going to grow up remembering how she shaped her life around bugging and one-upping her sister, and as an adult she will not be proud of that.
You can be naturally athletic, a good dancer, a good liar (about the pet thing), but something like education, something like teaching is a talent that is entirely built out of LOVE for what you do. If your sister honestly goes into education even though she doesn't really like kids, she will find that she doesn't enjoy her job and is unsatisfied (she also won't be making too much money). If i were you I would sit her down and tell her what you said here, that you were jealous of her, that she hurt you when you guys were kids. If she knows that how she acted honestly affected you and is going to harm your relationship, I think she would stop. Tell her that you think she would make an amazing lawyer and that you don't want her to go into education just because you are.
And don't stress out about ruining your relationship, because it's much better to be open now and maybe fight a little than to become adults and for you to resent her and for her to be jealous and build her life around what you're doing.
Good luck. I'm a younger sister too, i get it. Please message me if you want more advice!
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