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how to convince parents
To start off I will tell you about myself. I am a 21 year old mexican girl. I live wit my parents. Currently no job and I go to college full time.
I have a wonderful boyfriend of 3 years. He is turning 21 in december. And I was going to throw him a huge party. But he would rather go on vacation to cancun for a week. He says he would pay for everything for me which include flight, hotel, food, anything. Just me and him. ROMANTIC! I know. And probably some(2-3) cousins that live in mexico. Its wonderful, exciting. And I want to go really bad..
But here's the thing. I am the first born. I am the baby of the family and my parents would need a ton of convincing to let me go. I need help on tips to convince them. Please help anyone.
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I find that I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
I do not fully agree with the other writers’ answers. Yes, you are 21 and you do not legally have to answer to your parents about where you are going and what you are doing. In the same vane your parents are not legally obligated to pay for college and supply free room and board while you attend college. This is a time for mutual respect. Rather than ask their permission, ask for their opinion about you vacationing with your boyfriend. This slight change in how you present what you wish to do makes a big difference in how it is received.
You say you are the first born and the baby of the family. This also makes you daddy’s little girl. And no matter how old you get he will always see you this way. Remember this when you speak with your parents for what your dad is going to see is some strange man sleeping in your bed. Even if the two of you are not sleeping together that is what your father will see. Trust me on this one, I married daddy’s little girl and until my father-in-law past away I was the man that slept with his little girl.
You have every right to go on vacation with your boyfriend, with or without you parent permission. Getting your parents approval will depend on how you present your plans to them. Have a printed itinerary ready for them, the phone numbers of the hotel(s) or his family’s homes and acknowledge that you will keep your cell phone with you and charged. You should also promise to call them at least once a day at an appointed time, remember to allow for any time difference, each day.
One other thing; All your planning will be for nothing if you do not have a passport or new travel documents. I am not sure when the new travel restrictions start or if they have started. But without a passport or the new travel documents you may not be able to get back into the country.
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Jess is right. You're 21 years old. You're a legal adult. Tell them this is a once in a lifetime opportunity. Assure them you'll have your cell phone, you'll be with a group of people every moment, and you'll keep track of where you are, and where you are going. They can't force you to not go. You're not a minor anymore.
All you can do is assure them that things will be okay. Don't ask them.. just tell them you're going and you'll keep in touch with them while away.
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hey there, =)
sounds like that would be an amazing trip and your parents shouldnt get in the way of that.
id say something if you were my age (16) but your 21 for crying out loud your an adult.
whether your parents say no or not ir really doesnt matter..can they stop you?no.
once you turned 18 you don't need their permission.
sit them down explain to them where you are going and your really very excited and you hope they aproove because its going to be a great trip tell them your 21,not a baby anymore and your well able to look after yourself your mature and responsable they should know that.
reassure them youl be perfectly fine youl be with your boyfriend and friends.
if they say the would prefer you not go...bottom line how in the hell are they going to stop you?
if you were the same age as me I would tell you to show your parents your mature and responsable tell them youd update them and let them know how and where you are at all times so they wouldnt have to worry.
but as i continue to say your an adult. they cant make your decisions for you anymore.
considering your from mexico maybe your culture differs from mine in regards this kind of stuff..i dont know but I do hope I helped =)
and please don't let them stop you from going
much <3
Jess
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