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self esteem
16/f
Ever since I could remember I always had a low self esteem..I care about what everyone seems to think or say about me and I worry constantly about what is being said about what I do or how I act..I hate having low self esteem because it ruins everything. I can't wake up and not care about what people think about me and I can't stand up for myself . I'm too nice and I let everyone walk all over me. I want to learn how to build my self esteem and how to stop caring about what everyone else has to say about me ..not only that but I want to be able to stand up for myself in any situation can some one please tell me how?
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i had this same problem, and sometimes i still do. i think most girls can agree with me on this that we all have self esteem issues, especially with society's pressures to be thin and beautiful. not just girls, but guys too! it may seem like you're alone, but you're not. most people don't voice their self esteem issues and they act cocky or bring others down to make themselves feel better. honestly, it's all apart of growing up and discovering who you are.
i can't give you a definite answer as to how to have really high esteem, because i am personally working on that myself. it's so hard when you're comparing yourself to the really pretty girl next to you or that girl on the magazine.
but what i can tell you, is that you attract everything towards you. if you're feeling bad about yourself, and you just complain about all the bad things in your life, what will result from that is more negativity--you're just making yourself feel worse.
the solution is to think positive thoughts and reach for what you want. if you want better self esteem, look at yourself. what do you want to improve? is it acne problems? is it weight problems? find out what is bringing you down and work towards a solution.
the most important thing also, is to smile. smiling attracts people to you and radiates a positive, friendly vibe.
look at yourself, and tell yourself that you are beautiful and examine all the great qualities you have about yourself.
also, i have heard that excercise helps too :)
even though running on that treadmill sucks at the moment, don't you feel good afterwards knowing you have completed a workout?
so smile, and think positive thoughts :) work towards your goal and i mean, REALLY, work on what you want to improve. working towards your goals and actually acheiving them will result in higher self esteem and greater confidence in yourself. :)
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Okay so I used to be like you. I am still too nice to people but that's just my personality. As for the other things like letting them walk all over me, I've learned to stop that...
So yes, it is a matter of self esteem. But here's the thing, you have to figure out why you have such low self esteem...what is it that you don't like about yourself? Do you think that people don't like you? What exactly is making you think poorly of yourself. Once you figure that out, you also need to look at all your good qualities. Everyone has them, and so do you. Highlight them, focus on them, even tell me if you want. Anything for you to notice that you have positive things about yourself. You are worth it. And once you start realizing that you are, other people will too.
This next part is going to be kind of hard. You have to be mean. You have to learn how to say NO to people. If someone is bothering you, you can start slow by just ignoring them. First don't let them get to you, then once you see how good it feels move up and even maybe tell them off. Learn to say "I. DONT. CARE." and mean it.
Let's see...WHY? why do you care what others think? You have friends right? So why care what a group of strangers think? Are you happy with who you are? If not, then you should become happy. If you are, then let people think whatever they want. I realize this might not help but think about it, are any of those people smarter than you? or better looking? or better than you in any way? In most cases, no. So often smart people have low self esteem and this happens. But you really should realize that nobody is here to judge you.
Look, listen to this song, it once made me feel a LOT better and realize a lot of things...
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hope it helps =) Good Luck
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