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sigh, famous boyfriend.
18/f.
my boyfriend is a somewhat famous singer, & we have been dating for a while now. i'm on tour with him right now & i keep getting really jealous, because all these girls throw themselves at him & he like kisses their hands & cheeks, and i know he doesn't actually like them, but you never.. some of the girls are so pretty, & you never what could happen, when my back is turned. Also, i kind of did something really bad. well i was really jealous because he kissed this girl on the cheek & then she grabbed his dick & i was like freaking out on the side of the stage. & so, i got really mad and i stormed off & his best friend was back in the tour bus, so.. me & h is best friend kind of had sex. & his best friend said he doesn't want to tell him, but i feel guiltly, but i don't want to tell him either, because it might ruin our relationship. he told me this was his first honest relationship in a long time, because he has gotten lied to alot in the past. we have been dating since last november. & i love him soooo much, but i just don't know if i can deal with all the jealousy and stuff. & he just recently signed a really big record deal soo.. another good reason not to break up with him. i love him with all my heart, & i know i made a mistake.
what should i do?
i can't break up with him.
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Hitler the Goat is the answer I like the most by far. Everything in it is true.
You should leave him. I doubt you will, you sound far too selfish for that, but you should.
The bottom line, is that he endures groping as part of his job, and you are a leech who likes dating someone famous and cheated because she's a spoiled brat.
Everyone here is right, you don't deserve him.
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why were you jealous in the first place? other girls are jealous of you. By the way, good job on messing up a sweet deal. I couldn't have done it better. and what the hell is "kind of had sex" supposed to mean? Did he shove a computer mouse in your ass and call it good?
And judging by the "& he just recently signed a really big record deal soo.. another good reason not to break up with him.", you're shallow. Look at it, you just said something that amounts to "he just got promised a shit load of cash, cash that I can use to buy myself happiness". Enjoy your dishonest and apparently meaningless superficial relationship. I'm sure you'll rate me a 1, and I could care less. At least I'll have the moral high ground on you for all eternity.
-Gunner
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You love him so much but you had sex with his best friend? Are you kidding me?
He's better off without you. You get jealous because girls are coming up and that's normal, but to cheat on him because you're lonely and an attention whore isn't.
You can break up with him. Let him do his own thing. You seem like a huge waste of time. Let's stop playing victim and own up to what we've done, hmm?
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you dont deserve him! thats what famous ppl do show love to their fans! your obviously ungreatful and self centered! and your not in love cause you wouldnt have had sex with his best freind. and i agree with the other guy what the hell does him signing a really big record deal have to do with anything? thats gold digger shit!
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You should break up with him, he deserves way better than you. Another reason to not break up with him is because he signed a big record deal? What the fuck are you? Some kind of leech?
Go take your hypocritical cheating self somewhere else. But not before you tell him about everything. That way when he dumps you, he'll have all this material he can use in his music. Yay!
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Well, first of all, you need to tell him what you did. It's not an honest and true relationship if you keep things that big a secret from him. You don't need me to tell you this, but that was really wrong of you to do. You're worried about him cheating on you because he has fans, so you have sex with his best friend? Really?
I know you weren't trying to hurt him, but this is undoubtedly going to hurt your relationship. You can't be possessive, then have sex with his best friend, of course.
Honestly, I know the feeling you have. My ex boyfriend also had fans and was a fairly popular solo artist. It's hard to see girls all over your boyfriend like that, especially when you can't do anything about it. You need to remember that he is not touching them, they're touching him, and in all likelyhood, it's irritating to him too.
But those are the grounds that being a famous person (especially in a band) come with. I'm sure to him, it's only about the music. It's not like he's going backstage after shows and fooling around with groupies. He has even chosen to take you on tour with him; that's pretty big. It's a huge sign that he's being faithful to you. Because he's a singer, he has a lot of girl that would be willing to mess around with him. A lot of whores that would be willing to mess around with him. But he's not doing it. He's coming back home to you every night.
You're going to have to learn to deal with that lifestyle or break up with him. There's no way around it. I'm sure he knows how you feel. You've probably talked to him about it before; and I'm sure he's reassured you that you're the only one he cares about. If you can't deal with the groupies, you'll have to break up with him. Trust me, they're a lot more important to you than they are to him. Like I said, to him, it's probably just about the music. I'm sure he doesn't like other girls hanging on him and grabbing him like that.
I've been known to tell girls to back off at my ex's shows. I definitely know where you're coming from with that. But as you can tell, he's my ex boyfriend, not my boyfriend. (Not because of the groupies, entirely, btw) If a girl grabs your boyfriend's dick, there's absolutely nothing wrong with staring her down until she backs up. She has no right to be feeling up on anyone that she doesn't know like that, especially if you, his girlfriend, is standing right there.
Either way, tell your boyfriend what happened first, then take it from there. You need to decide whether or not you can deal with that lifestyle. If you can't, you'll have to move forward without him.
Darby
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