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Emotional and physical Affairs
Is if justified to side with one friend who has recently admitted to a physical affair over her husband who has had and is having an emotional affair with another woman? The other woman was friends to all of us and they're both in denial about any wrong doing. The marriage is splitting up due to the wife's physical affair, yet he is accepting no responsibility for his emotional affair. Am I justified to feel this way?
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I wouldn't exactly look at it as "siding" with anyone. You are simply supporting your friend through a difficult situation. Yes, she made a mistake, but friends love each other through those things, and because you are close, you have a more intimate perspective on all the complexities of the situation and you are better able to sympathize with her. I say keep on supporting your friend. Do your best not to engage in any "husband bashing", as much as you may want to. You never know what may happen between them in the future. Her husband may come to his senses and they may reconcile and you become the "nasty" friend. But continue to listen to her and don't feel bad. You are a good friend and simply doing what good friends do.
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Get your emotions out of thier marriage difficulties.
Supporting your friend doesn't mean absolutely 'taking her side'. You can support her and love her without demonizing her husband. It would also be possible for you to remain civil with him, despite disgreeing with him, if you wanted.
Clearly there is blame to go around here and you will never know the full extent of either of their crimes. There marriage is ending, it doesn't matter who was 'more' wrong. All that matters is whose friend you would like to be.
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