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Is what i am doing wrong.

Question Posted Wednesday July 8 2009, 12:13 pm

My best friend has been with this boy for well over 2 years. They have never been official, but they say i love you, he fucks her, they chill, whatever.. they act like a couple. This kid fucks other girls all the time, lies to her, treats herlike shit, and just the other week he was so drunk, he beat her up. He drinks all the time, has no job, doesnt go to school, he encouraged my ex boyfriend tocheat on me throughout our whole relationship, he harasses his friends. Basically this kid is worthless. My friend talks about him all the time, wont go out and do anything cause of him because she chooses to mostly, not cause hetells her not to, she comaplins, cries, but noooooo matter what he does, even after he beat her up, she goes back. Its like from the Hills, with heidi and spencer and lauren. Except this is worse. I cant be her friend... its so annoying and stressful, cause ill stick up for her, tell him off, get into my own shit, then two days later no matter what he does she;ll be hanging out with him. She fuckin buys him stuff so he'll talk to her again AFTER HE DOES SHIT TO HER.

She does not understand why i am like, not talking to her and dont wanna be her friend. Am i doing anything wrong in this situation. Its been going on about 3 times a month for well over two years, and the thing is i try to tell myself not to care cause its nothing new, but i do. And it pisses me off when she goes back to him, he hates me, i hate him. He's done enough shitto me already.
But anyways, am i doing anything wrong?

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JustSomeone answered Thursday July 9 2009, 11:20 am:
you're not doing anything wrong. shes in love with this kid, or THINKSS shes in love with him and she feels lk everything is her fault. he is just a piece of shit and she is just being extremlyy stupid. she needs a physciatrist or more help than you can give her. theres really nothing else you can do except try to explain to her that shes being EXTREMLY STUPID. but she wont get it. she needs more help than you can give her..

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anonymous99 answered Wednesday July 8 2009, 8:55 pm:
Well I hate to say this, but legally there isn't much you CAN do. You can either keep doing what you're doing, or in one of the periods that she wants nothing to do with him(like after a beating) try to convince her to call the cops. If she does, she's got all the proof she needs to put him behind bars.

After that, she has NO CHOICE but to stay away from him.

My sister went through this and still is, but she's too pig-headed to do anything.

I hope you do better for your friend than we have for my sister, and I hope this helps.

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