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how to convince my brother to lay off
so heres my problem i have a lot of friends who are drug addicts from pill heads to pin cushions (heroine addicts. My brother is friends with some of my friends and he's always like you shouldnt hang out with them or your going to end up like them, but its like most of these people ive been friends with for years and the only thing ive done is pot, witch everyone on the planet has at least tried once. He doesn't think i have the will power to say no for some reason.. witch i really do im never going to do anything other then pot because i see how it effects my friends and i admit that there dumb for doing it but hey its there life you have to let people make there own mistakes. Well mt brother went and told my mom that he thinks im going to end up like my friends witch isn't true and he started saying how there all ***holes witch and its like some of the nicest people i have met are drug addicts.. how can i convince my brother to lay off, i mean maybe to other people this looks bad but really.. it's not my friends would never pressure me to doing anything i didn't want to do most of my friends say that if i ever tried anything there doing they'd kill me, so it's not like there going to force me i tried explaining this to my brother but hes so oponinated, how do i let him no he's being over protective and needs to lay off, just telling him isn't working..
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Get in his face a bit and raise your voice. Detail out for him exactly what you see this doing to your friends and how you would never, ever do that to yourself.
Every time it comes up, assert yourself and bare your teeth.
A few of my closest friends got involved with Heroin. The one warning I will give you, is that dependent addicts put the drug first. You don't have to poke yourself to get sucked into drama and get your life fucked up. Be careful and be smart, at some point if they continue you will face a choice. You'll have to try to save them or you'll have to walk away.
Keep that in mind, be prepared for it. No one can watch another person destroy themselves forever.
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You need to tell him the truth. Tell him that hes being over protective and that he should just stop. This will most likely help because you should hang out with the people you know and like. I dont blame him for wanting to keep you safe, but i agree he might be over protective. Just tell him that you respect that hes trying to keep you safe but he needs to be less protective because you wanna be friends with those people.
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Your brother's not being overprotective. He's being smart (if not a bit hypocritical, since he's friends w/ some of those people too). Your brother knows what you aren't experienced enough to know yet, that you ARE who you hang out with. You may not be into those harder drugs right now, but if you are around them long enough, even if no one is PUSHING them on you, you'll be tempted to try them, and that's when the real trouble starts. I'm sure these people are nice enough, but what you don't understand about "drug addicts" (your description) is that eventually the drugs push out the person, and they become more important than anything. Drug addicts will say anything, lie to anyone, steal from their own mothers, just for a fix. Your brother might seem like a jerk to you right now, but I have no doubt he has your best interests in mind and he know what he's talking about. Try to explain to him that you hear what he's saying, but he's coming on too strong. Then thank him for caring about you and doing his best to make sure you're safe and get the chance to live a normal life.
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