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attitude fromt h e husband
My husband gives me attitude just about everyday, when i call him on the phone he answers the phone "WHAT" and this is the only call of the day, instead of hi how is your day going, but then i notice when we are together and he answers the call of a friend or a relative he answers in the most loving manner. When i ask questions just to start a converstion he answers me with attitude and is short with his answers as if me being around him bothers him. Then he also answers me like if i am stupid for asking certain questions. When i attempt to talk to him about it all he says is "i dont want to hear it" and if you keep it on your going to have hell to pay and what he means by hell is ignoring me and giving me more attitude. It has gotten to the point now i dont even call him anymnore only when i absolutely have to and i dont want to be around him i dont even attempt to start a conversation with him and the worse part about it is when he is trying to be nice i give him the same treatment he gave me and then he has the nerve to ask me what is wrong with me. What is sad is that he has apologized a few times for being this way and acknowledges he is doing wrong but does nothing to try and change it so too me i think he does not care about this marriage at all and i am on the brink of giving up on it even though i love him to death and i guess since i have seen the kinder side of him i think he will go back to the way he used to be; i have never cheated on him i have never lied to him i do everything for this man i am the only one he has, his parents are dead and he has half brotherS and half sisters but they live out of state and i am the only person here for him but he driving me away.
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try marriage conseling.. OR maybe with all the stress his been going through is not helping him be nice. But it doesnt give him the right to be extra mean to you..there is something up. Talk to him be real with him, and let him be real with you. Ask where your marriage stand, because you dont deserve to be treated like this.
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I didn't see an actual question anywhere in this story, but I think I can gather what you want to know.
It sounds to me as if he is no longer interested in continuing this relationship. The reason I say this is because in the past, I did the same things to my girlfriend and she quickly became an ex. I wanted to end the relationship and, pardon the vernacular, didn't have the balls to end it outright. So, I basically treated her like shit, ignored her pleas, and was a complete asshole until she ended it for me. It was a cowardly, stupid way to go about it, and I don't recommend it.
The quick answer is, he doesn't understand what he has, and he won't until he doesn't have it. Before you go with an outright divorce, try a separation. If you don't feel comfortable seeing other men while separated, you don't have to. He, more than likely, will take the opportunity to see other women. If he's anything like I was, he really wants out of the relationship to try being single again. I left high school with a girlfriend and never felt like I'd gotten a fair chance to live alone and be single. I realize now it's not all it's cracked up to be, but it took that wake-up call for me to realize it.
Best case scenario, he'll realize what a dick he's been, that he's ruining the best relationship he's ever had, and he'll come back to you full of apologies and the wish to get back together. If he's sincere, take him back. If he just struck out with the ladies and is falling back on you as a last resort, punch him and move on. You're wasting your time.
Worst case scenario, he'll hit the clubs every night and leave with a different slut every time, and never look back. This could be positive however, as you could see him for what he really is, and you could comfortably move on knowing he was not the one.
If you truly want the man you love to reemerge from this current incarnation, you have to let him go for now. Hanging on and hoping he'll get better will only make it worse. With any luck, he'll do what I did, realize what he's missing, and come back to be a loyal, loving man. If not, you'll know you made the right decision, and you can move on.
I'm curious to know as to what happens. Please, if you don't mind, keep me posted on what happens. I see more of myself in your husband than I'd like to admit, and I feel personally obliged to correct his mistakes as if they were my own. Best of luck to you, and stay strong.
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