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my boyfriend has been hearing voices since 8th grade. we are both in 11th now and it has gotten worse. he says that now he has to 2nd guess if someones actually talking to him or if its just in his head. its driving him crazy and he wants to get high all the time to escape it and he just attempted suicide last night. he wont listen to me and i tell him to get put on meds for it and he says meds numb u 4 real, you cant feel anything let alone hear anything and i dont wanna be numb id rather be dead. so now im terrified because i really feel like hes an inch away from killing himself and i dont know what to do because you cant help someone who doesnt want to be helped and he doesnt see his mom anymore and his dad doesnt take him seriously. please help i cant lose the one n only guy ive ever loved.
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After a long period of taking narcotics as you say your bf has been doing,many people suffer mental health problems such as hallucinations and and delusions(hearing voices).It really would depend on the lengh of time he has been taking the drug although people react differently.On the other hand considering these voices started in 8th grade he may quite easily have a serious mental health deseise such a schizophrenia which among it's symptoms certainly involves the type of desusional voices your boyfriend has been hearing.Statistics show that these sort of mental health deseises occur between the 13 and 25 however they can occur at any age.A tough family background or just life in general can also have these effects.Stress is another can be another key factor so perhaps you should find out if he is under a high level of stress atm due to maybe school work,family,friendships,bullying.Anything particularly negative.I am a qualified nurse in the UK however am not liable to make any assumptions as to what may be ailing your bf.I see young people in this predicament everyday and even suffered from delusions when i was growing up due to drugs and depression.Help must be found for your bf and i strongly recomend you suggest he at the very least see a school counciler etc because they will be able to put him in touch with further help if needed.If his suicdal tendencies continue then you must speak out about his current illness to your or his parents.A good peice of advice to follow is to keep and eye out for any sudden changes in his mood for example if suddenly he appears happy and at peace or if he takes a sudden plunge further into his depression it may be a clear tip off that that is the day he may try to commit suicide.Reassure him he isnt alone because not only are millions of other people in the same situation he also has people who care deeply for him such as your good self.
Good luck to you and your boyfriend and truly hope that he comes round to getting help.
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Ok, do you know if he did drugs in 8th grade? That could have a biggg part in it. If he did drugs in 8th grade, such as hallucinogens, then that's why he could still be having this problem. I'm pretty sure (not 100% positive) but I think hallucinogens can stay in your system for awhile, or it can randomly come back or something. (check into that?) Even if he was just doing like marijuana, you never really know what they put in that. If he's been doing marijuana since 8th grade, and has the same dealer since then, the dealer could be putting extra stuff in the drug, so he can sell more of it.. my one friend, her whole face and hands went numb when she did marijuana once, so they can mix a whole bunch of stuff in it. So, maybe that is why he is hearing the voices? It could be something with the drugs, I don't know though, that's just my best guess for that.
Recently, (2 weeks ago.) this boy I knew killed himself, because his girlfriend broke up with him. It was very hard for me to take, and he even told me he was going to do it, if she broke up with him. I didn't take him seriously, and he ended up doing it. You don't want to feel the regret and sadness that I feel now. You need to tell someone. Since your probably not still in school, I'm assuming you can't tell any teachers or counselors. If you don't think his parents will help at all, then do you know anyone else close to the family, that will? You could also just simply call 911... but, I don't know if you want to do that or even how that works. :/ Their is a hotline. I wantttttt to say its like 1-800-suicide, or something, but I don't know? Look it up in your phonebook, or just type in suicide hotlines, and they will help you further. They'll probably know what to do, better then I could tell you myselt. So, call them!! I'm sure he wants to be helped, if hes telling you, people who commit suicide usually tell someone, because they secretly want help. If you really care about him, you'll get him help. OK! the number is 1-800-suicide. go to suicidehotlines.com & they have information up there!!!
good luck, & please tell someone before its too late. :(
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Ok this sounds very much like my uncle, who suffers from schizophrenia, and started getting "sick" around the same age. Somebody has to do something. I agree with the person above, that you should tell your parents or his parents or both and then the local psyhiatric ward for help.
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I find that I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you might receive from others. My advice might be more like you would get from a grandparent.
While I’m not a professional from what you have written it sounds as if your boyfriend is” “a danger to himself and others”. This is somewhat of a legal term and requirement necessary to allow doctors to hospitalize and treat people who may not want to do so voluntarily. As I said I’m not a professional and neither are you so neither of us is qualified to make that determination. You also said his dad doesn’t take him seriously. Is that something you have observed, or possibly your boyfriends’ depression talking? This is an important question you need to answer or have the answer too before you do any of the things I’m going to suggest.
First I would like you to discuss what you have written with your parents; and yes they will probably tell you that you cannot see him anymore. I agree with them for this reason. What if he tries to hurt himself while you are with him? If you are lucky he only hurts himself, but what if he hurts you as well. Please do not say he would never hurt you. Remember he is not thinking properly. You can’t help him if he hurts you.
Your parents should know who to contact to get help for your boyfriend. Here is why it is important you have firsthand knowledge of whether your boyfriends’ father is seriously involved in your boyfriends care and life. If your parents do not feel it proper to call his dad they can call the local youth services or family service or community social services department of your local government. If they deem it more or most urgent they can call the local police and discus with them what to do.
Will your boyfriend still be your boyfriend if you do this, probably not, at least not initially. But if what your saying is true and I have no reason to doubt you, then at least you will have prevented him from hurting himself.
I tried to find some support groups for you to contact for help but could not find any. There are several hot lines for suicide prevention should you be able to get your boyfriend to call one of them just type in Suicide or suicide prevention hot line to any search engine.
Good luck
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Hearing voices inside your head definitely is an experience of a psychiatric symptom. Although, we all have that inner voice from time to time...some people might experience a more persisting voice which indicates that the person needs to be taken seriously and be treated for it. Auditory hallucinations can promote people to act out in attempts at sucicide so this is very serious. Typically, this symptom usually occurs in people who have schizophrenia or mood disorders.
Does he take any current medication for anything now? I'm just asking this because sometimes medicine has side effects which can lead to auditory hallucinations.
It is vital for him to be check out. If he doesn't agree to be put on medication it will only make matters worse. Some patients have a sense of denial. But it's extremely important to encourage your boyfriend to take this seriously. Maybe the best idea is to have him talk to a therapist. He will have someone to talk to and learn what his options are. There is no reason for him not to at least be informed what kind of help is out there. And how will he know without asking or talking to people who are professionals in that area?
Tell him how valuable he is to you and that you want him to be strong and at least find out some information. His life is not worth this and this can be taken care of. He needs to realize that even though his parents aren't always there for him you are. And you need to be firm and strong throughout this proccess because you love him and he needs your strength to help him through this.
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This guy sounds like he has severe issues or he's just attention seeking. You either need to tell him to start seeing a psychiatrist, or if you really care about him - you need to go and tell his mom about his suicide attempts. When someone claims they're trying to kill themselves, even if you don't think they'll go through with it - it's still a big sign of depression and he needs psychological help. If I were you I'd want to stay as far away from him as possible, he sounds like a potential murderer.
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