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I don't love anyone, I just have little crushes
This whole year, I haven't liked one guy. (And I mean loved one) I've only had a series of crushes. I'd think a guy is cute or something, usually wouldn't talk to him, and then get over it. I'd barely know him, too. At the end of the year, I started talking to a guy that I had a little crush on, and I got to know him better. He was actually really nice and quircky. Then, school ended and I haven't talked to him since. I don't have his number and he doesn't have a facebook or anything. I don't get it, how come I don't love anyone? Am I weird for not liking anyone? I want to be in love and feel love Is it because I don't love myself, so then I have no love to give? What's wrong with me?
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You're a teenager? I'm guessing 14/15. That's perfectly normal. The majority of teenagers let their hormones take over and rush into what they think is love, which is really just lust. They long for the other person, its physical attraction. Sure they can love their personality, also, and of course, love really can exist between some teenagers, but its rare. Lust is everywhere, disguised as love. And when teens rush into love, saying "i love you briann, 6-5-09<33333", they're not feeling love at all. you cant develop feelings of that depth for someone in mere days, even weeks, unless you've known them and already established a friendship with them years prior. That said, you're mature enough to realize that lust is just that-- longing. You're trying to develop feelings of love for these immature teenage boys, which is very difficult, because most teenage boys aren't worthy of romantic love in the least.
You're mature and insightful enough to know as soon as the right guy comes along. It may be months, maybe years, but its definitely worth waiting for.
For now, try looking for older guys who are more mature and will give you the genuine feelings of love that you want. I'd say 17 is the minimum for real maturity for guys, but my rule of thumb is to never date more than 2 years up, college guys being completely off-limits, so I'd try to really start scoping out guys for boyfriend material at 15, if you aren't already.
Being single as a teen is SO much more easy and stress free unless you find a guy worthwhile. Trust me.
xoxo, lexi
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Not everyone have crushes on people the same way. Maybe you just feel like you know what limit to take your feelings for someone to. Maybe in your head you automatically assume that not much can come out of your feelings for that person so you try not to take the feelings to far.
There are other people who crush way to hard, even to an unhealthy point. Say thank GOD that you are not one of those people who gets attached to and obsessed with every guy you meet.
Ask yourself, "how much do I love me?" If you love yourself enough then you should have no problem liking anyone. I don't think you have anything to worry about, trust me on this a crush and love are two different things. Maybe you are not the crush type, maybe you are the LOVE type. Love beats a crush any day.
Feel better about yourself, love yourself. You are fabulous!!!! Hope that this helps!!!
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