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How to make new friends sophomore year?
Freshman year..I only went to 2 of my friends' house.. like less than 5 times. Its soo sad. No sleepovers, or anything like that. I have like only 3 close friends but we're not like a clique and we're not even THAT close. Close relationship wise, like I'd go sit with them for lunch or talk about what happened in the day and etc, but not like.. I know that much about them and we talk outside of school. I dont know why its been like that a lot. Like in my life I've only had like 2 or 3 close friends like that but it still wasn't that close. I want to change this next year, sophomore year. I'm 15 now, and a girl, if it wasn't obvious by now, lol.
Umm a friend has only been over to my house, other than for birthday parties (the last birthday party I had was when I was 10) once. There's just nothing to do any my house! We have 2 computers in our messy basement.. and we have the Sims 2 but thats a single player game, really. And the game is slow, too. We don't have anything like Playstation, Xbox or Wii.. I mean probably later when my dad's business works out and we can buy more things but not now. Our TV in our living room isn't working and the only one that works is in my mom's room.. until we get the other fixed. like someone can't get over and we go watch the little tv in my parents room. that would be weird. i mean i find things to do but i wouldn't know how to entertain a friend. i never have.. cause we don't really have anything to do! even my neighborhood. we have a little kiddy park but thats it. i've always wondered how some other people do it. entertain people. i mean i like going to other peoples houses is more exciting than staying at mine.. especially when there's not much to do. so yeah the big exciting things in my house: tv & computer. blegh. and in my neighborhood i already know all the kids. its like kinda far from where everyone else in my school live. like i cant see myself being friends with the people already here. i mean i'm friends with some but its just blegh.. i want to see new people you know.
i dont know how to make it all casual.. like "hey wanna hang out after school?" what do people even do when they hang out? god i sound so sad.. but i dont really know. the very few times i have i feel all this pressure to be like interesting and not boring.. and to like always talk. even when talking to like other people normally i guess. i mean not family or anything, but like random other people i want to be friends with. or to like always say funny things or idk. but then i see other people are more friends with people that aren't like that.. and im like.. what do i have to do to make people want to be my friend and ask to hang out and stuff? but i mean it cant just be going to their house. i dont know what to do for fun in mine either. my room or the rest of my house isn't too fun either.
anyways i just want to branch out. like i dont know how to find people like.. like i guess i'm pretty eccentric as like i like different music than the people i've seen. i live in NJ and i listen to indie rock.. a lot of it from the UK. I listen to a lot of music from the UK actually. I was born in England and I want to move back when I'm older anyways. I mean NJ would probably be more enjoyable if I had more friends and stuff to share it with. or anyplace. I dont even need hundreds of friends to be happy. I'd be happy with like 3-4 close friends, you know? what else do i like.. volleyball. a lot of my good friends are in volleyball but they aren't in my school - a lot of them. like in my town its just kinda there.. but not too popular. like people want to do it but they don't know much about it or dont even try like by going to camps and then dont make it when they try out for the HS team.i like to laugh.. usually by silly things, but not always like stupid humor. so funny movies, romantic movies.. I mean i have a really interesting life and all, I dont think Im boring. Other people are often interested in my life but like that doesn't mean they are automatically gonna be friends with me. But even some boring people have friends. I just dont know what I am doing wrong,.Maybe I'm too bold during class. Like I always ask questions cause it makes me get a better grade to understand everything but i mean that makes some people not want to talk to me i think. Like I can be in a class and not talk to anybody cause nobody is my friends.. and they all have seperate cliques but I don't act all like low selfesteemish about it. I try to shrug things off. It doesn't help that I'm really optimistic so somehow I've never gotten depressed about it. But looking back to a lot of years.. I havent done much! no first kiss, no boyfriend, the only 4 people i'd consider to be my best friends in the past it was in elementary school (and more when i was even younger. sad, right?). so i end up spending my time like on the computer. i mean im not on all the time, i exercise, but a lot of my time is spent on it.
i just feel so blegh. looking back to freshman year, theres not much other than volleyball season (though during the season my grades were at my worst :/ so my parents aren't sure they want me to do it again if thats gonna happen again) that i feel great about. i mean in some classes i get along with people but like we don't like hang out and stuff. it sucks even worse cause i dont have a cellphone so i feel so unattached from a lot of things. if i dont get one this summer i think im going to go crazy.
HELPPPPPPPP. im joining school clubs next year but is that like my only option, with that? and i need help with my other issues here too. thanks so much, whoever writes the best gets 5 stars!
Extra: oh yeah and the boyfriend thing is another issue. like i dont even know how to do that.. cause im too picky. like i guess theres high expectations for the first boyfriend and first kiss. its so annoying. or like i'd only start liking a guy after he stops liking me. the only 1 time that didnt happen was in 4th grade when i liked a guy and all my friends said he liked me back but we were like 10 so nothing would happen anyways. we werent in the same neighborhood or anything and nobody else was 'dating' then. too bad i havent seen him since then, though he's changed. i dont like him anymore. but yeahhh so im not sure how something like that will happen again, ha
im not really sure how to use make up either.. ugh i dont have any. i'm black, btw. if you have any idea where i should go for this info (it cant be too expensive either) do tell! it seems like every girl can use it cause their parents buy it for them.. :/ i mean i look pretty w/o it but i'd look better with it!
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It is hard sometimes to make new friends. My sophmore year i made a tonnn of new friends compared to freshman year. Freshman year I had 1 best friend who we hung out like everyday, and then i had 4 or so close friends. This year I made like 10 new close friends who I talk to all the time. What kind of things do you like? What do you like to do? Find people with similar interests. Like I'm vegetarian and I like healthy food, so this one girl who sat at my lunch table who I talked to like once, one day I started talking to my other good friend about how its hard to eat at restaurants sometimes because I really like healthy food and I don't like meat. Well, the one girl happened to be vegetarian to and I had no idea, and she knew of this really cool vegan restaurant and we ended up going together with 2 of her other friends who were like us, and now i'm really good friends with them. So, try talking to the people you talk to right now about similar interests like that. Also, other friends I made were ones in my spanish class, I was really bad at it and these two girls helped me and all we'd do is talk about boys and music and we all came close. Also, in another one of my classes i really like parties and partying i guess, and this one girl who is like hardcore with that all she does is party, well now me and her are great friends. so, just meet people that like to do anything at all you like to do, just talk to anyone in your classes that seems nice and has similar personality. and don't talk too much actually, i know you want to seem interesting and fun, but in the beginning of making friends, let them talk. people really like to talk about themselves, so ask them a lot of questions and then give your opinion in between.
for places to go, go to the mall, movies, park, parties, take walks, go to the rec, ice skating, roller skating, go out to eat, there are lots of fun things to do. & when i have people over, we like to read magazines, paint our nails, go on walks, just talk, watch movies, go on the computer, play outside, draw with chalk outside, make cookies, stuff like that.
and worry about the boy thing maybe later, focus on making friends first. :)
good luck!
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