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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 years already. I do everything for him. If he needs a ride im there. If he needs money im there. We go out to eat on weekends he usually pays when I offer to. We see each other almost everything but not the whole day together. I do super nice things for him. For example when we go to his soccer game I pass by a gas station and buy him his favorite gatorade drink or or ill help him wit homework or stuff like that. I feel like I go above and beyond for him. But on the other hand he doesn't do anything like that for. For example. I took my brother and his sister to a community college to take a placemment test, it takes 2 hours to finish. I ask him if he could pick me up so I wouldn't be alone. He complained and said that he would have to bring me back and it would be pointless when he lives about 5 minutes away. And another thing I don't know if I just feel insecure or I feel like he's drifting away but I complained that he didn't have pictures of me on his phone or his laptop or even his itouch. He said I was being stupid and I complain over the stupidest thing. I don't know what to do. We get into arguments frequently now. It really feels like he doesn't love me. I don't know what to do. Am I stupid for complaining. And feeling this way?
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Cuddle has a point. There's just one thing I've learned from people around me: During a "break" someone will generally date and/or sleep with other people. The other one then gets mad and that leads to a possibly violent break-up. In my opinion, since it sounds like neither of you is enjoying the relationship, you should calmly break up with him. Don't tell him why you're breaking up, especially if he asks. If he appears to get angry, leave ASAP. It might get dangerous.
Remember, if your relationship isn't fun 85% of the time, it's time to leave.
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If you're not happy (which it sounds like you really aren't) then I think you should just tell him you want to take a break. Don't start a fight over it and hang around and ask him if he's going to change. That's just going to lead to more fights, and him getting more frusturated with you, and him probably breaking up with you.
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Hey there
okay first up no your not stupid for complaining or feeling that way at all!
your putting 100% into this relationship and practicly all the effort and it looks like your getting zilch back.
thats totally unfair to you and you dont deserve it,nor should you have to put up with it.
let him know exactly how you feel ask him why he has to complain about doing something for you and look at all you do for him?after all you are supposed to be his girlfriend,tell him he needs to start treating you right and showing that he cares because lets face it everyone needs to be reminded and shown love a relationship requires the commitment of two people not one.
tell him that if he doesnt start putting in effort that its not going to work,because honestly it isnt hopefully he will understand and start working at it more,some guys arent good at expressing themselves in doing the small things and stuff to remind their gf that they do care they seem to think that we automaticly know.
if nothing changes after you bring this to his attention then i believe youve got alota thinking to do about where this is going,
wish you the best hope i helped in anyway!
good luck =]
Much <3
Jess [15/f]
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