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Is honesty always really the best policy?
So my bestfriend was dating this guy, who had it really bad for her, they had only been official for a little over 2 weeks, but they had been spending alot of time together & he really liked her. Well one day, she decides she likes her guy bestfriend,(her ex boyfriend who took her virginitys brother) her & her "bestfriend" wanted to keep it all under wraps so her ex wouldn't find out, so they decided they wouldnt go out, they would just do physical stuff without being together, & she only told me & another girl.
Well at first she was just going to cheat on her boyfriend, but then she decided to break up with him. She told him that it was because she was grounded for the rest of the summer & wouldn't be able to see him. He knew it was a lie & he kept texting me & begging me to tell him the real reason, & he swore on his fathers grave he wouldnt say anything. I finally just said "Okay, shes gotta thing for her bestfriend, but their not going to go out, she just felt bad about it & didn't want to hurt you." Well they ended up getting in a fight, & at first i kept denying it was me who told. When she finally figured it out, i admitted to it & we got into an arguement. I eventually apologized for telling him, but now shes going around & posting things on myspace about how she cant trust anyone & shes only got herself.
Is it just me or is she blowing this a little out of proportion? & did i do the right thing by telling him?
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Well in a way she is blowing it out of proportion and then she isn't. Then whole myspace thing was stupid though. The guy had a right to know about what happened, but it shouldn't have been you who had to tell him. It would've been better for her. I think she is just upset because she trusted you with that and feels she has no one to trust anymore. All you can do now is apologize. Which you already did so you have to let her come around again. Explain that you are really sorry and you thought he had a right to know, but you realized that it shouldn't have been you to tell him. In a way you did the right thing but in the process it was her secret and she should've told him, not you. She might be going a little over dramatic but still, you lost her trust. So you just have to gain it back. Good luck!
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I kind of understand what your friend is going through. I mean yeah, that boy did have a right to know, but you also didn't have a right to tell him either. It wasn't your relationship. I understand how your friend feels, because I have gone through something somewhat similar. It's not so much that you told him, but it's that she trusted you with something, and i'm sure you probably promised not to say anything, and you did anyway. i was so hurt when my friend did that to me. & then after that you denied it. that only made it ten times worse. (atleast when it happened to me, i thought it made it even worse) because you were lying to her face too. i'm not sure if she should really go be posting things around on myspace about how shes so upset, that's kind of ridiculous.. but she is obviously really upset. If I were you I would apologize constantly, just tell her how sorry you are, and you don't blame her for being mad, & you know.
It really sucks when a good friend of yours lies to you, it really messes with the friendship, & its really hard to overlook it.
good luck, hope you guys work it out. :)
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