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Well thanks for the very kind words. It is really flattering. In case you haven’t already noticed, my self esteem is shot to hell right now. It is good to hear that there are at least a few things I’m doing right. Ever since this all happened, I thought that I was just screwing up. I mean I know that I didn’t make the big mistake, but I still was pretty hard on myself. My insecurities have been haunting me constantly. I have been getting better day by day, and I know that I need to keep making myself happy. I need to get to a better place and hopefully this will also help win her back. At least I will feel great about myself and have the confidence I will need to move on if it doesn’t work. As far as the arguing, I grew up in a household where all my parents did was fight. They would have shouting matches to see who could yell the loudest. It didn't really bother me that much and it wasn’t really a dysfunctional family. Just a lot of yelling. I knew that it wasn't normal though, so I vowed to myself to never do that. I am a very laid back person, and I don't really let a lot of things bother me. I'm a lover not a fighter, always have been. I also do not hold grudges or harvest resentment. I have always tried so hard to be the perfect man, and I know I’m not, but I think I've come pretty close. So that is one of the reasons I've been so confused through all of this. The perfectionist in me says I can be even better, but another part asks if it is ever gonna be enough. I know that no one man can satisfy ever single emotional need that a woman has. It's impossible. But the woman has to realize that and make a choice to either except the man for who he is, or move on. And in my case, I don't think my wife will ever have it better. I really hope she comes around. As for your husband, I actually completely understand where he is coming from. I am a lot like him in that regard. I would also be very hard on myself t if I couldn’t take care of my responsibilities. I’m sure part of him feels that he is letting down the people that love and care about him. If I was in the same boat I think I might feel the same way. Now one thing I wouldn’t do though is take it out on you. That doesn’t fix anything, it only makes matters worse. I commend you for sticking with it for as long as you have, and I think that it speaks volumes about a person who could do that. I also know that it is way too much to ask of someone to do that for the rest of their life. I know that if my marriage doesn’t progress at all, I will not stick around. After all, life is short, and that is no way to live. A lot of people have been telling me that lately, and I am actually starting to believe it. I guess there is only one person you HAVE to live with. I know that I will be happier if my wife gives her heart to me again, but I am also starting to realize that if she doesn’t, it won’t be the end of the world.
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You have actually left me speachless! I whole heartedly agree with every word that you said. Life really is too short to just sit around and wait for someone to come around. I love your personality, and the fact that you are able hold decent conversation, don't find that much in men these days. I tell that you are the type of guy that you can tell anything to, sort of like a best friend. That's good. Your wife really needs to straighten up and fly right because if she doesn't she will loose out on a really good man, and I am sure some other woman will be more than glad to fill her place. You sound like my ideal man. Where were you when I was looking for MR. RIGHT? Lol.
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