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I know there must be a reason why he did this, but what?
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Quick sidestory: told the guy i liked, we'll call him R, that I liked him a bit less than 2 and a half months ago, we were pretty good friends before that. He didn't respond, we didn't talk until 4 days later, we're still friends but things are still somewhat awkward and we're not the friends we used to be. He still never gave a clear response to it, we literally barely spoke about it, which isn't surprising because that's how he is.
So my friend, who we'll call N, is also a close friend of R's. We all have chemistry together, so I figured as long as N and I needed to study and get his help, I'd invite them over to my house so I could accomplish SOMETHING with him after all of this. So I told N about the idea and she said it was a good idea. So this past Friday, we were talking to him and I figured I'd ask him then. So I said "So N and I were thinking of studying for chem at my house on Tuesday (which is today) after US regents (chem regents are Wed) and we could probably use your help so yeah". So as I'm saying this, R has this weird smile on his face and is nervously laughing, which is really weird because he never is like that, he's always hard to read and isn't very expressive of how he feels. For example when I told him I liked him, no one would've known he was freaked out unless he told people about it, and he had told me that i kindof scared the crap out of him (that's actually the only response I got from him). So anyway, N & I said a couple of things after I asked him but then I was like "Okay so is it yes...is it no...is it maybe..." So he said "it's maybe". So I figured ok, Monday is the last day of full classes and the day before they'd possibly come over so I'll ask him for sure then. So Monday comes and in chem I talk to him and I said "so are you going to come over and help N & I tomorrow?" And he said "Uhh... am I supposed to?" So I said "No but I'd really appreciate if you did". So the bell rang and he didn't really respond so I figured I'd wait until after class when me, R & N walk together towards gym (I had gym with just R, but N still went the same way). So class ends and we're walking and I say to him "So, R, are you going to come tomorrow or not". So mumbled something and I was like "I can't understand you". So asked again and he was like "Do I have to?" and N was like "R's not into study parties haha". And so R's giving that weird smile again and we keep going back and forth, I'd keep asking him and he'd keep mumbling (basically he was trying to be funny and act like he was being annoying to cover up the fact that he was stalling). So N & I were like wow what is your issue can you answer the question already but we were still like laughing. So N had to go a separate way and I was walkng a little more with R on the way to locker rooms. So I was like "So. R. Is it a yes or no!" So he's still smiling weird and he looks nervous and slightly uncomfortable, and still not answering me, trying to be funny, whatever haha. So we went our separate ways for lockers. When I walked into the gym after he was there first sitting against the wall, so I sat next to him and gave him a look and he obliviously was like "what?" (he's quite oblivious). So I said is it a yes or no? He said "it's a no". So I asked why and he decides to say "Because I have better things to do" (now I'm not condoning what he said, but 1. he was referring that to both N and I and 2. That's something he would say, honestly I know him and by the influxion of it I highly doubt he meant to be hurtful by saying that, he's just kindof stupid that way). So for the rest of the period, me, him and my other friend, who we'll call T, were sitting and talking. Throughout the period, I was pissed that he was rude and that he wasn't coming, so I kept snapping at him throughout the period and I'm sure he noticed. Weirdly, he was still being nice to me and seemed to talk to me more, when usually in these past two and half months he tends to avoid talking to me or looking at me a lot (not that we didn't talk, but it was just a lot less then we did before I told him I liked him, and I could just tell he was more communicative with me then). So next period in math, which R and I also have together but we never got to talk there since our seats were kindof far, I texted N and told her what happened. After I told her to ask him what he said to me as if I didn't tell her, and see what he says and see if he'd change his mind. I'll get back to that soon. So last night, I was texting T and we were talking about what happened in gym. She said wow well he seemed really nice in gym (which he was). Also I talked to T this morning in person and she also mentioned that she also thought that it seemed like he ws trying to make me a little jealous with her in gym, it's hard to explain how so I won't get into it but it's possible she was right, but who knows if he was trying to be a jerk or not. I texted N this morning too and said "So I'm guessing he's still not going to come?" and she wrote "No sorry, he said that he was busy" and other stuff (at least that clarified that he's actually busy today, and he's not online which with him means he's probably not home). Basically, yesterday and the week before R was acting really weird, and I could tell a difference in him because he hasn't been like this at all before.
But anyway based on all of this info, why do you think he was acting this way? Why would he stall to give me an answer if he already knew he was busy and just could've easily said it? And also classes are over now and I really don't want to lose touch with him, and I know we will if I don't talk to him myself because he's not a big talker when he's not being talked to, but I'm always really scared to text guys I like because I never know what to say, so how could I allow myself to be more confident about talking to him this summer?
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I think that he might have known that you were up to something. He seems like he just wanted to be friends. Like he didn't want to have to ruin the freindship that you guys had over a relationship. I have a friend who is best friends with this guy, and they like each other, but they just don't want to get together because they don't want to ruin the relationship. Maybe it the same with R. Maybe R doesn't want to ruin the friend relationship he had with you.Cuz a lot of the times when people go out, after, things get kinda awkward. But this is only what I think.
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hmmm. this is hard to answer, he is a confusing person! i kind of think he was just stalling about not studying with you, because honestly, i don't think he wanted too so he was just trying to get around it. & probably was hoping you'd take the hint. i don't know why he was laughing though..maybe he was nervous. & maybe he was being so nice because he felt bad about being mean to you. & weren't you good friends with him before you told him you liked him? well just go back to acting that way, when you guys were friends. act like you never told him, & things will go back to normal eventually.
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