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confused all the time.


Question Posted Tuesday June 16 2009, 1:08 am

My mom really just baffles me for the longest time. I dont get why she sounds like she insults me. Like one time I told here when you tell me something you sound like you are trying to attacke me. Then with fury she saw me get mad at her and she was like what I am trying to attack you. Seriously I really think that she has gone far with her verbal abuse. How would you feel if you walk up to your own mom and she goes hey bitch nice hair. what do you feel? Thats how she sounds to me. Like today she was working on the lights and she was like hold this light covers but I did not like how her voice sounded it didnt sound like she was just saying help me you know. She is always like this and when I cry to her everything becomes my fault. I am so hurt by this. she blames shit on me. I feel so alone and I want to die. I told her I want theraphy but she wont take me there. I tried everything to feel ok with her calling the nineline and posting there but it does not work cause they just tell me to move out. But I am lost cause I dont think the immigration will allow me to work yet.

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x_mystery answered Tuesday June 16 2009, 2:23 am:
I know where you're coming from. One of the best, and only things you can do in attempt to "change" your mother is to let her know how you feel. Rather than telling her in person where you may be interrupted or get emotional, try writing her a heartfelt, well thought out letter. Do not get mean or accusing, simply use "I" statements, such as "I feel like the tone you take with me sometimes is hurtful."

However, you must remember, that the only person you have complete control over is yourself. If you go to school, seek a guidance counselor or other counseling from what the school provides. Find where your options lie as far as your ability to work and live on your own -- a guidance counselor can be of assistance with this as well. It also may prove beneficial to search for crisis hotlines and centers which are local to you, so that you are able to speak with someone who would better know your local resources.

Above all else, remember that where you are at is not forever. Relationships with parents often do change for the better once the child is able to move out, and that day will come for you. Hold your head up and know that things will be better for you sooner rather than later, and that regardless of what she says or how she treats you, you are your own complete person whom is capable of nearly anything you can dream of.

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