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he won't leave me alone!
alright so i have this friend i guess and he always wants to hang out and i honestly don't want to hang out with him. he's really annoying and clingy. i don't respond to his texts and he still texts me like everyday asking to hang out! like he doesn't get the message, then after a week if i don't text him back he says "are u mad at me?" so i feel bad and say no. and i always make excuses to not hang out but i really just don't want to. i feel bad and i feel like a bitch but this kid says he's my best friend but i really don't want to be...what should i do? like i don't want him to hate me, i just want him to leave me alone and just talk in school.
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I just had the same problem as an adult! I have found that being straight up and honest is the realest thing you can do for yourself and him. Just let him know that he is crowding you and that you don't like it. Tell him that you don't want to talk or text everyday and that you need some space. Tell him that he is clingy which means that he is needy and that you don't think it's fair for him to place the responsibility of filling a void upon you because you can't do it, you've got too much going on. Make sure to tell him he's nice, cool and definitely one of your friends and that he always will be, but you need some space and don't want to be considered as his best friend..Let him know that you will call him as time allows, or that you just don't want to be friends outside of school. you can IM him if you don't want to say it directly to him. I would say it directly, but it's upto you. The main point is that you say it and get some peace because I know everytime he calls or sends a text you are like " Damn it!" I know I was.
Good Luck. If that doesn't work, change the phone number.
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hey,okay have you honestly even considered giving this kid a chance?,
I mean he must think alot of you to call you his best friend!,seriously whats the harm in just hanging out with him for one day?
have you ever hung out with him before? whats making you not want to even talk to him has he done something to you?chances are probably not
i think you need to be more open minded and just hang out with him once how do you know you dont want to,if you havnt ever..?
dont just overwrite him give him at least one chance he cant be THAT bad,he probably doesnt realise hes coming off as annoying or clingly he just thinks highly of you and wants to be your friend you should be flattered in a way.
try and explain to him nicely not to be so clingly.
Im sorry I couldnt be more help! and if this isnt exactly what you want to hear,but in my opinion i do think you should try to cut him a break (maybe you have and you still cant bear to be around him Idk,if thats the case just explain to him in the nicest way that you just dont want to hang out he should get the message,be nice and civil to him though)
hope this works out for you,this kid seems to really like you though.
just tell him that the way he texts you non stop can be a little annoying,he will soon get the message and back off and limit it then
<3
Jess
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