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ex bf
okay so we broke up like a little over a month ago and i've been talking to his sister and she says that he has no social life since we broke up, and he's been being mean to his friends and stuff and he was doing better with me (he had a social life with my friends-guys&girls too but now they kinda don't like him cuz he dumped me). the last month while we were dating he would lie to me and tell me "his mom wouldn't let him go out" or "he had homework" and he never used to do this for like the first 6 months we were together. she says hes lazy but he still likes me. i guess what i'm saying is that i miss who he used to be...we were planning on hanging out when school is over, so my question is, do you think i can get him back the way he used to be during the first 6 months? how? things were perfect last summer and i want them to be this summer too. and please don't tell me to just move on, if worst comes to worst i know that i can. i just want to give this a shot because i do miss who he was. thanks so much. 17/f hes 17.
p.s. i've asked you previous questions before so this relates to all that too if you remember :) thank youuu. you're such a help.
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Hey there =]
yep,I remember you, did you ask about him going on holidays with you?
and there was a previous question before that about the two of you giving each other space until summer?
hope im thinking of the same question.
anyway
his behaviour now is strange alright,I believe it could be possible to get the old fun guy back that you used to know,you just have to show him what hes missing by not going out with friends and just being stuck in.
convince him to just come out and chill one night,do things that you used to do when you first started going out and remind him of how good it was,how fantastic of a person you are and how great you were together as a couple
if you have any like special places you went to when you were going out go back there or if you two had a song maybe have it on a c.d in a car if your going somewhere with friends and be like "oh look our song" remind him of memories you two had and funny moments and stuff if you get me.
make him think like what have i thrown away and given up.
he probably feels stuck in a rut maybe that he cant hang out with your friends because of the break up explain to your friends that you wanna help him to feel like his old self again like last summer and go out and socailise and maybe by the end of it you two might get back together they should be understanding of it.
then what you need to do is ask him to just hang out as a friend and not to be overly pushy then from there you can determine if this is really worth giving it a go,if there still something there and if he still feels something. he probably just needs reminding.
try not to physc yourself up too much and get your hopes up because the reality is there that people change and sometimes they stay that way,i think its great that your not just giving up on him though hes probably just like going through a weird time where he is confused about his feelings and stuff..and is therfore pushing people away.
if theres no change after a while well then id advice you not to waste too much of your time because if it starts to look like its going no where and your efforts are being wasted then it really is (as much as i hate to tell you and you dont want to hear it) move on. (hopefully it wont happen though)
its good that you know you can =] and theres absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to give it a shot youve got nothing to loose and alot to gain.
because at least then youl know you tried your best and it just wasnt working you just have to accept the fact that people change it was the same for me and this guy i knew. he changed horribly was so funny and caring then just became a stuck up cocky jerk.
anyway I hope this helps in anyway and that i made some sense to you! good luck =]
and if youve any more questions please do ask,
<3
Jessie
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