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How do i tell him this?
How do you say or imply to a guy you like that you wish he’d give you a chance without seeming desperate, making things more awkward, or pushing him away that much more? I had told the guy that I like him a while ago (long story) and we were friends before that so things were awkward when I told him but we’re still friends, it’s just not the same though. We barely talked about it and he never really gave me a clear response and although I know I should assume that he doesn’t see me that way, I still hate that nothing was made clear to me. Two of our friends (both who are girls, just saying) have tried to gauge a reaction from him about it on their own but they couldn’t really get anything out of him. He’s hard to read and he’s not one to talk about how he feels, as most guys are. I’m planning to talk to him and just sort of clear the air about this because I’m sick of bottling a lot of things up (because I’m a very open person, but with him I’ve been scared to talk to him about it but now I just want to talk about it because this “elephant in the room” has to be talked about in some form, it was ridiculously hard for me to tell him and I’m not going to let this be disregarded and forgotten and continue to let things be awkward). When I am talking to him and trying to clear the air, I still want to incorporate somehow that I wish he’d give me a chance, like a last glimmer of hope, because I’m not totally sure what I’m planning to say will allow him to pick up on that. My main goal of talking to him is clearing the air and just finally saying what I’ve been wanting to say, but I still really like him and still want to include that I want him to give me a chance, I just don’t know how to be subtle about it, or if I should even mention it at all. help!
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You really aerent alone on this, guys have this problem too, more often thatn girls think, most gorls think that wheni guy brushes them off, there not interested, without realizing that we go throught the same internal struggles regardi9ng this issue too. As far as your siruation is concerned, the time for subtlty is over, you need to make you feelings known, dont make it awkward, you and him need to have a talk about it, take him aside, or hell surprise hium and kiss him, for all you know he could be having the same thougfhes and feelings that you are having, but like alot of guys, is afraid to act on them based on the outcome.
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okay firstly wait a go for putting yourself out there like that you should be proud because it takes alot of guts to do something like that and its always really hard. espically when you get the response you have been given.
its totally not fair to you the way hes going about it and your right the least you deserve is a clear response he should realise how hard it was for you to do that.
However I dont think you should be subtle about this you have bottled alot of it up as youve said so i think you should come right out
and explain to him how you didnt intend to make thing awkward between you two just you wanted to tell him how you felt and that you understand if he doesnt feel the same but that you wish he would tell you because then you will know and you can try move on and the two of you can try to get back to how things were,ask him to tell you straight out what his feelings are,if he says he wants to stay friends ask him his reasons
(if he says something like he doesnt want to ruin the friendship then thats ridiculous because who better to have a relationship with then your friend someone who knows you a long time wouldnt hurt you etc..and plus things have already been made awkward by not even giving it a chance tell him he'l never know unless you guys try)
i cant predict exactly what he will say though, if he says he doesnt feel the same for you then i guess you will just have to try move on because you cant make someone give you a chance,if he has any sense at all he will I hope =]
good luck, hope I helped in any way and that everything works out for you,
<3
Jess
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