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Do love back really work?
Will it work out if i get back together with my girlfriend of 5yrs relationship then i dumped her because she cheated on me? Because i can forgive her but will it be the same as before or will i be chasing ghosts?
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Well, I remember you from previous questions on here. I can tell that you really care about this girl, but you dated for five years and she cheated on you.
I can guarantee you things are not going to be the exact same as before. Whether or not you feel like you forgive her, if you are a human, you are going to have feelings of resentment towards her for a while. These feelings will be even worse if they are subconscious. Don't be so quick to forgive and forget. She cheated on you, what, last week?
There's no way I would even be thinking about getting back with a guy that just now cheated on me a week ago.
As I remember, she was all upset and telling you that she missed you and she was sorry. That makes it really tempting to just forget about the whole thing. You guys have been dating for five years and you're used to cheering her up when she's upset. The difference here is, this is absolutely 100% her fault.
If you want to forgive her and date her again, you need to really talk things out. Tell her that what she did was extremely immature and selfish. Let her know that if it ever happens again, the day you find out will be the last day you ever speak to her. Tell her that you do not want her speaking to the guy she cheated on you with and that she has broken your trust. Tell her that you're willing to work on it, but that it will take a long time to build your trust up again to where it was before.
You have to be hard on her about it, unless you want to get cheated on again. If she's willing to work for it and do all the things necessary to build your relationship back up, you can try it. Yes, you might end up just chasing ghosts, but you won't know if you don't give it a try.
If you date her again, make sure you keep your guard up and watch your back. If she can cheat on you once, she can do it again. That doesn't mean that she will, but it does mean that she has it in her to do it. Just proceed slowly and with caution.
Darby
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Look the question you have to ask yourself is why did she cheat on you. This is crucial in determining if it was a problem in your relationship, it it was a one time thing, or if this is something that will happen again.
I am personally very sceptical when it comes to cheaters. The reason for this is because once someone has shown me that they can break your trust, it is their burden to prove themselves trustworthy afterwards.
In regards to whether things can be the way they were. Yes they can. How easily depends on two things. If she still feels the same way (i.e. she didnt cheat because of some issue) and on the amount of resentment you bring with you (if any).
Good luck
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Uhm for people things can definitely work out. Depends on really how much your into the relationship, and how much effort you're actually going to put into it. I'm not saying it's going to be easy, cause its not. but it will nbe chasing ghost in a way, it always is.
Give it a shot.
goood luck!
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