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swallowing after a BJ?
okay so me and my bf are gonna have sex pretty soon and was wondering why guys find it so attractive when girls swallow after a blow job..
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Part of sex is maintaining a mood, or trying to heighten it. When decent sex is occurring, a couple builds on each others emotions and desires to heighten arousal.
When one person shows disgust or discomfort with any part of sex, it dampens the mood. Its just a somewhat unwelcome attitude regardless of the reasons behind it.
On the other hand, when anything about sex turns one person on to the point that they show it, it turns on the other person. When a girl is fine with and even enjoys swallowing, its just another positive note in the course of the experience together. Its another thing for two people to build arousal and desire for each other.
Theres also the side thing.
People refer to it as "slutty" or "dirty" as below with another poster. Thats a bad way to put it. Humans are excited by the taboo. We are curious, and if we feel like we aren't supposed to do something it gives that something an even greater potential for enjoyment at times.
Simply put, the more open someone is to all aspects of sex, the more enjoyment everyone gets out of it. I mentioned curiosity. Satisfaction of curiosity is a very basic and yet very powerful human drive. When two open people have sex, curiosity can become a part of the experience. My girlfriend and I are both very open people in that way, I know that I can suggest something we haven't tried and theres a 99% chance that my girlfriend will be excited about trying it just because she knows it turns me on.
With people who aren't open, either side might fear judgment, rejection, disgust, or a host of other negative emotions. That fear makes you hold back and repress what you want. That, right there, is a gigantic fucking canyon in communication between people. And its a canyon in an issue as important and basic as sex.
Lets use a practical example. My girlfriend recently told me a fantasy that she's apparently had for years. I don't need to tell you what it is to let you know that its pretty kinky, and pretty out of the ordinary. Its not something many people would be comfortable with.
But because I am open, the idea intrigues me. I want to try it now myself just because I want to be able to give her a fantasy that she's had for a long time. I will be turned on purely by the fact that she wants to do it, but theres a bonus to that.
When we do in fact do what she wants, I'll already have a reason to enjoy it. That makes it alot easier to enjoy the fantasy itself on its own merits. If you like sex because you're comfortable doing almost anything your partner would want, and you like making them happy, it gives sex a completely positive base feeling that you can then add other excitement onto.
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Most guys think it feels better, and most girls wont do it so when they find a girl that will it just makes it that much better.
Hope i helped =]
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Some guys don't. Some like it better when a girl spits. Basically you have to do something with ejaculation, and if it's in your mouth, guys just find it hot.
Lol =]
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because its 'dirty' and 'naughty' and they do it in porn.
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