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i need advice about a friend
okay so i have this really really moody friend and i call her my "best friend" but she doesnt think that about me. infact she doesnt even want to be my friend. but i have done everything for her, i have protected her from rumors, i have fixed her relationship with her boyfriend multiple times, i have comforted her and givin her advice a whole lot, i have always been there for her when she had no one else to turn too. and to add to that she doesnt trust me alone with her boyfriend EVEN though hes ONLY my good friend. i mean i have helped them with their relationship. and the worst part is though i still want to be there for her and be her best friend. and i have no idea what to do?
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The last advice said it all, but I would just like to add one thing. Don't you take it personally that she acts the way she does. It sounds like she has a really low self esteem, which is why she doesn't trust you around her boyfriend. Whatever it is, she has some issues, and the worst part of it is that usually people who have issues attract the one person who really cares about other people (that would be you) and takes and takes and takes. Then, when you finally have begun to think you don't want to be her friend anymore, all of a sudden she has some problem where she really really needs your help, and she sucks you right back in. Don't let your kindness be taken for weakness.
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Has she actually told you that she doesn't want you to be her friend? How do you know that?
If that's true then this that is HER loss. You seem like you're a wonderful friend that anyone would be lucky to have.
Friendship- like any relationship- should be a two-way street. If this "friend" doesn't give you the support that you give her then she's not really a friend at all.
In which case, you should reconsider your friendship with her and find someone who is a true friend. You deserve better.
I know it's hard to lose someone who you consider a good friend but it seems like the reality is that she was never really a friend to begin with.
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