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losing friendships
This problem with my friends is not resolving and it's just getting bigger. your advice was really good and i thank you a lot. Now its getting worse though and just recently a few days ago i was talking to one of my friends. I dont know why she was doing this. I was trying to help her in math class and i guess she got mad at me and she was giving me an attitude. I hated that, yet i was trying to help her. we got our averages and she has a b+ (we are all like the people who have to get high grades) so i was like "its ok and there will be more grades and i can help her" and i had an A in the class. Maybe she was mad at me because of that. Well, so she was giving me an attitude with that face. And i was so mad i yelled at her in class, i was so embarrassed. ALso she wouldn't even had a b+ without me because half the reason was from homework and she copied my homework EVERY TIME. What does she think i am? And she didnt talk to me after that even when i tried to say something. I was trying to be nice and she started to completly ignore me like ur not there im serious, i was so mad and she was acting all nice and smiley to the other people. That just made me so mad and i didnt know wat to do.I need help! You gave good advice last time and i need help with this again.
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When you were helping her in math class and she got mad at you it might of been because she doesn't understand what is going on and is jealous that you know what you are doing.
You were doing the right thing by helping her after she was being so rude to you. There is a good chance that she got mad at you because you ended up getting an A while she got a B+. She might not want you to know that she is not understanding what is going on in math and there is no reason for her to take it out on you.
Even though you were embarassed you did the right thing by yelling at her. It showed her that you weren't taking her crap anymore. She should be thanking you for helping her in math. You got her that B+ and now she is treating you like you are some type of disease. You don't deserve that. You deserve to be treated with the respect that you are treating her.
Maybe she is just using you to get good grades in the class. She knows that you'll help her out and that's why she was talking to you.
I'm guessing that the reason she didn't talk to you after that is because she wasn't expecting you to yell at her, to stand up for yourself. She didn't think that you had it in yourself to stand up for yourself.
I believe that the reason she is acting all nice to other people and smiling at them is to spite you. She wants you to get angry and wonder what you did to ruin your friendship. She wants you to feel like it was all your fault.
Try and sit down with her and talk to her. Tell her that what she is doing is really upsetting you and you don't want to lose your friendship. Ask her if you did anything to make her act this way. I'd try and do it face-to-face because then you'll get a better answer out of her rather than through texting or talking on the phone. If you still don't get an answer out of her or she still ends up treating you like you are nobody, ignore her. Ignore all your other friends that are being ignorant to you. Now, I'm not saying be a complete and total b*tch to them. Just ignore them and hopefully they'll come around. If they are your true friends they will come back to you. Show them that they aren't hurting you. Even though they are making you mad and hurting your feelings. Try to not let that show. And hopefully they'll start to realize that it's not hurting you and they'll give up. I know that the school year is coming to an end and you don't want to start off the summer with no friends, that's never fun. Trust me, I know exactly how that feels. It hurts a lot. But you still have time to talk to more people and start becoming friends.
Girls are vicious creatures. They like to ruin peoples lives. Most girls have nothing better to do with their pathetic no-good lives that they feel the need to make other peoples lives just as miserable as their own. They think that they are God's gift to earth, the best thing to have ever walked the face of the earth, but they really aren't.
You need to find strength in the struggle. When you're broken in a million little pieces and you are trying but you can't seem to hold on anymore, and every tear falls down for a reason. Don't stop believing in yourself.
I'm here if you need anymore advice. You can always ask me. :)
Hope I helped and good luck
xoxo,
Brianna
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