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emotional abuse.
Ok on google I typed in how to fight emotional abuse I had done it before. And on the things it says like the signs of emotional abuse I would say yes to everything but this one does not have anything to do with a relationship with a man. It's about my mom. I am not saying right now that she does anything bad but this is my problem with her. I know this doesnt sound like a question but right now there is nothing I could do to leave and move out. When I feel like she hurts me feeling I just cry and I dont like crying. But is there anyway I could make my situation more positive because I get mad when I feel like she tries to put me down and I think that causes more problems. I tried to ignore but that does not work at all.
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Well it's funny you should ask me of all people cause i had a similar situation with my mom. Now I don't want to give you the wrong idea...my mom is great, she is giving and supportive and helpful and a great guide, and i don't know what your mom is like but this is just me. There were times though when she would say some really harsh stuff to me, especially when she was stressed out. I used to take it really personally. I would be depressed for weeks. Things like calling me an idiot all the time, or telling me i didn't have any common sense. One time i accedentally started a fire cooking for her and she said I did it on purpose to collect on her life insurance hahaha like i really tried to murder her. When I would say i love you some times she would say yeah right hahaha. But then there were times that she would tell me she was proud of me, she loved me even if she said it fast :P hahaha tell me how wise and tallented i am. So, i learned to understand her personality. You should do some resesarch on your mom's astrological sign and read a book on personalities so you can learn to find out who your mom is and how to deal with her. Also read books on building self esteem. You gotta get that garbage she told you about your self out of your head. The only reason it is important to you is becuase she is your mom. if she was a stranger you probably wouldn't give a damn. When she tells you some stuff, don't argue, just pray for her and tell your self positive things about your self. Make a vision board of you getting a long with your mom. Imagine only being around her when she is in a good mood. Eventually you will see less and less of her negative side. Tell her some good things about herself, whatever she is saying to you, more than likely her parents said it to her...change that. If she is approachable, talk to her, say hey mom why sometimes do you say this and that to me? do you mean it? are you just upset? if she means it then bless her, it's ok, just cause she believes it to be true about you doesn't mean it is. you decide who you are and what you can do, not other people. There is a really good book...Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused, by Steven Farmer
I read this book, among others, this one is really helpful in the emotional part. :) Hope this helps and you can message me anytime you want. :)
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