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boyfriend + friends = confused situation
14/f
freshman
so i just started dating this guy. we will call him D. i have known D for almost 2 years now. We have been friends for about a year. Some of my friends think its great that we are going out. Butmost of them cant stand it. When I get to school I hang out with D, and our friends. And i was planning to still sit with my other friends at lunch and let D sit with his friends most of them time. Well my others friends are mad at me because I am going out with him ( he didnt always treat me the best when we were friends but he didnt do anything to my friends) i dont want my other friends to be mad at me, but i need to be with D too. I know friendship comes first so thats why i set tiem aside. What should I do? Also whenever I sit there they dont always talk to me but when I dont sit there they get mad at me for "ditching" them. It like I cant win. Can you please help me?
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ive been threw this too. its really hard because,you dont know who to choose. :( i ended up choosing my boyfriend because my friends always got mad for no reason so i decided to choose him. or just talk to ur friends or do the same thing to them. or ignore and then they'll realize why you havent been talkin to them
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Well, it is true that you should hang with you friends, but D needs time with you, too. If they really care about you, they will accept that you have a life and you are happy with D. You should really tell them,
"Please don't accuse me of ditching you,
because half the time you don't even talk to me when I'm here. If you want me here, than talk to me more. Otherwise I'm going to go with D, because he actually talks to me. It's not fair how you guys are treating me. I feel that if you love me enough you'll accept me no matter who I go out with or if I choose to be with other friends. I would do the same for you."
They shouldn't be mad at you for who you choose to be with. He shouldn't be mean to you, but that doesn't give your friends the right to take their anger at him and unleash it on you.
That isn't right.
Hopefully that helps.
Good luck!
Stina 19/F
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