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how do i move our relationship forward?
I'm 15/f, and really fancy one of my guy mates. We're not just friends, we both act like we like each other, and although we have never actually kissed, it's obvious that we're more than friends. He'll do things like tell me I'm beautiful, stick up for me, ask me on dates just me and him, spoon with me all night, try to get us alone, and he's asked me to go to prom with him.
BUT, he is also involved with this other girl. I'm not really sure what's going on with them but I know they've had sex. I don't know if they're relationship is just physical or if he has proper feelings for her.
Also, he'll act like he really likes me, and then do things like take ages to text me back,and not go out of his way to see me at school (we have different groups of friends at school.) I just don't know what to do.
How can I get him more interested in me, find out whether he has feelings for this other girl, and just generally move our relationship forward? Because I really want to be with him and I think we'd be good together but I'm not exactly sure how he feels and things keep getting in the way.
I don't want to just ask him straight out in case playing hard to get would make him more interested. What should I do?
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Yes, sometimes playing hard to get is a good thing to do. Guys like the chase. Like, next time he asks you to hang out, tell him you're busy and make other plans. But sometimes, like in this instance, he's not playing hard to get, he's just being wishy washy. If he really liked you for you and wanted to be with you, he wouldn't let things get in the way of that. It seems childish, but in these kinds of situations, you have to play the jealousy card. Let him know he's not the only guy in your life. Ask another guy out or if there's another guy vying for your attentions, give them to him. If this guy likes you, he'll definitely be jealous and will act appropriately. When he acts on the jealousy, tell him straight out that you either want to be just friends and absolutely nothing more or you want to be a couple. Sometimes, you just have to give a guy an ultimatum to get them to act.
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