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Sorry, if it's in the wrong catagory...I'm at a loss
I'm "big" for my age...>< I hate being over-weight! But it's in my DNA...On my rough days, I get really depressed that that's why I haven't had my first boyfriend/date/kiss... Lately, it's been more concerning I'm 15/f! I'm glad I have my breast, people mistake/mistoke me for a boy before they came along! I'm still worried that no guy likes me...being home-schooled probally doesn't help but I do weekly activeties!T_T
Point being, does being fat pervent me from having a normal teenaged life(boys,crushes[I've only had 2 my whole life],friends)? I know I'm not a good flirt & I'm a tiny-bit shy ,but does this fat prevent boys&crushes?!
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The problem is that broken record playing in your head. It's telling you that nobody likes me, I'm overweight not pretty and other garbage. You've bought into those lies that it's been feeding you and have lack of self-esteem.
The problem is that EVERYONE you meet although they don't know your actual problem can see how you carry yourself and your lack of confidence. Boys pick up on this and don't know how to approach you.
You need to show that you are approachable, fun and a good catch. Just let go of this garbage and be who you feel you are inside and don't correct yourself. Talk to people you do activities with and come to know them that way.
If you see someone you like invite them to hang out in a group or host a party. Can I ask why are you home schooled? Does it have to do with illness, wanting to get ahead or school being far away in a rural area?
I was home schooled briefly. There are associations out there meant to link other home schoolers in your area. I sense you're miserable at home when it comes to schooling and not socializing with kids your age. If I were you I would tell your parents that it's not working for you and it's upsetting to lack friends.
Size has NOTHING to do with finding a boyfriend or friends. People will respond to who you are and the qualities you possess and confidence and nothing else.
Believe in yourself, getting talking to them and see where it leads. Don't be a mouse either, but don't be boisterous. Forget about being shy and just get in there and mix with people. You're no different than anyone else but believe you are.
They respond to that and don't know what to make of your fear and lack of confidence. They can see how you carry yourself and that you are withdrawn. It's a real turnoff. Be engaging and who you are and let the chips fall where they may.
Size has nothing to do with love, crushes etc. and shouldn't prevent you from enjoying that or any part of life unless your size is a major health issue--then it can. But it sounds as though you're normal and it's hereditary.
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when you worry you get more deppressed you ned to wake up every day and say im beauitul and im going to make my day right.you need to be cofedent be happy for you do things you like go for a walk go get your nails done i understand when i was in middle school I thought i was nothing its not who you look it who you act really i had to learn how to be a lady i tock lady classes this helped me to grow and feel good about my self being mannerly,classy,graceful or the main key and its good for your social life boyfriends,career ect it donst matter what weight you are im a plus size model but be heathly just eat right eat veggies and fruit and white meats and hole grain eat small portions it will help you along the way make some goals right them down if you dorun 3 miles you loss 300 calores or just speed walk do three times a week use some music ipod or cd it will get you on the go the more you do for your self more more you feel good dont copare your self to others be you its better to be diffrent you gotta get out thier in the world quit worring let god worry for you you got alot of time down the road be happy. here are some tip how to be a lady this is not being mean or any thing ok
How to Be a Lady
It is likely that every girl hears "act like a lady" from their mother at some point in life. It involves a number of well thought-out mannerisms and actions that might not come naturally. A few simple steps can help anyone be a lady.
Be polite. While traditional guidelines suggest that women should act as shrinking violets, being a lady does not necessarily mean being submissive. A lady, in all her wisdom, should keep a cool head under pressure and outwit her adversaries with meaningful, well chosen words.Maintain a well groomed appearance. While women should not feel that they need to dress up every day, grooming is a sign to the outside world that a woman is ladylike. Instead of throwing on tattered sweats, choose a nicely fitted jogging suit to run errands. Instead of leaving the house with no make-up, try a quick 5-minute face in the morning. Carry your sense of the ladylike throughout your wardrobe.
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3Educate yourself. Today's proverbial "lady" should be educated and able to hold up her end of a conversation. By staying on top of world events and keeping your mind active through reading and meaningful television viewing, you can carry on a conversation charged with intellectual heft and interest
4Be independent. In a drastic shift away from traditional ideas of ladylike, the contemporary woman is considered a lady if she can stand on her own two feet. Women hold down careers, raise children or live the single life dependent upon their choices and preferences. An independent woman is the pinnacle of ladylike. 5Nurture kindness. Perhaps the most recognizable sign of a lady is kindness. Whether a woman is kind to her parents, friends, lovers or the community at large, hardly any other characteristic is as valuable and contagious.
How to Develop Poise
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Having poise means you display self-confidence in any given situation. People look to you for leadership and guidance in tough and highly charged situations. If you want to be the "go-to guy" during when times get tough, develop poise to give yourself that strong and steady appeal
How to Develop Poise
By eHow Fashion, Style & Personal Care Editor
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Having poise means you display self-confidence in any given situation. People look to you for leadership and guidance in tough and highly charged situations. If you want to be the "go-to guy" during when times get tough, develop poise to give yourself that strong and steady appeal
of how tempted you are to respond emotionally. If you want to develop poise, maintain an even keel. Show that you have the self-confidence to deal with the problem first. Learn to deal with your emotions after the problem is solved. How to Be a Classy Phi Mu Lady
Being a Phi Mu lady is a blessing. Not every girl gets the opportunity to call herself a Phi Mu...so if you are one--feel VERY privileged! :) In order to be an ideal "Classy Phi Mu Lady" there are some guidelines you have to live by.
1.Always live by the ideals that our founders set for us: Love, Honor, and Truth. Try to model love to everyone. Obviously it is simply impossible to truly feel love toward everyone - but don't snob someone just because you don't particularly like them. Phi Mu's are known to be kind and humble, so just put on that beautiful smile of yours, hold your head high and keep on walking. (If you have to, clench your teeth together and force on a smile so you won't look rude)-but try not to look fake about it.
2.Honor yourself and everyone around you. You are obviously a well rounded GREAT girl if you are a Phi Mu, so take advantage of that!! Don't be conceited or self-centered but take compliments gracefully and feel good about yourself. Having self confidence is a key ingredient to living a fabulous life!
3.Always be truthful. Lying is ugly-and not appealing. If people hear you lying, they will never feel they can fully trust you...because they will assume you could be lying to them too!
4.Always know your limits when going out with friends. It can be appropriate to have a few drinks, but not too many. Know how much your body can handle and stop before you lose any sense of control. Being a loud, obnoxious drunk girl is not cute, not appealing, and NOT classy!5.Always look well groomed and taken care of, and appropriately modest. ESPECIALLY if you are sporting that PHI MU jersey! Be proud of your letters, but remember, in pjs or Prada, you're representing Phi Mu. (And your letters should never be worn in an inappropriate place like across your rear - definitely NOT classy).
6.Always Be courteous and tender. There is nothing sweeter than a polite, considerate person.
7."We are the Phi Mu girls... we wear our pins and PEARLS!!!!!"- WEAR PEARLS with your dresses!!!!!!!! That is so classy and fabulous looking!!
8.Help people. Take a few minutes out of your day to just do something nice for someone! You have no idea how much of an impact you could make on someone's life if you just take the time to go out of your way for them. Helping people not only makes them feel great - it also makes you feel worthy, and good about yourself!!
9.just simply be a Lady! :)How to Appear More Feminine
By WriterGig, eHow Member
Learning how to appear more feminine is simply a matter of recognizing common feminine traits and details and incorporating them, while still retaining your own personality.
You may have been a tomboy growing up or a sporty girl in high school, but having transitioned into adulthood are desiring to makeover your look. Here's how.
chest up head shoulders back sway your arms as you walk when you walk in heels toe you should hit the heel then the toe this well make people know who you are shes women and she can do any thing. hope this helps you if you want to learn more go to ehow,com how to walk in heels ect ok bye now
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